Guests that didn't give a gift

Jessy- you read my mind. AMEN sistah.

I have to agree with Jessy, you shouldn't expect gifts, It would be nice to send a T-Y card for them showing up, they obviously care about you and perhaps money is tight, sure they could of got you a card, maybemost likely tell you they did and it got lost/stolen, I would just send a T-Y card saying thanks for sharing our special day with us, glad you made it, love your names, and if they did send or give something, and it's not mentioned, they would call or email you..

I dont know I guess Im with some of the girls- bring a card. Dollar Tree has really pretty wedding cards. Its a dollar- and it is the thought and consideration atlaest to bring that even if you dont put anything in it- its a nice gesture.

I personally hate going to any kind of event where gifts are usually given without one. But, as brides, we shouldnt expect to get gifts (Im looking forward to them but will be just as happy if everyone can come) But just so you know, guests have until 3 months after the wedding to send gifts. And I believe that even though gifts should not be expected, there is some etiquette to gift giving as well and a wedding is one that a guest should give a gift, no matter size or cost since they are receiving an evening of dinner, dancing and usually are sent home with gifts themselves.

Thou there was no gift sending a thank you card is a good thing just say thank you for coming to our wedding i hope you had a good time. We enjoyed you there

You just got married 2 weeks ago!! Your guests have a YEAR to send you a gift. Personally, if I am short on time and can't get the gift out to the bride and groom before the wedding I like to send it kinda late. A month or two later...this way my gift wasen't lost in the shuffle with so many others and its kinda a nice surprise for the couple to get later. Like getting to celebrate your wedding longer.

Be patient with your guests, they may send one....and if they don't think of having them with you on your special day as their gift to you!

I agree with Jessy on this one. On the registries page of my wedding Web site I put something like, "Your presence is presents enough for us" or something terribly cheesy like that.

Jessey you are NOT the minority with me. I TOTALLY agree with you. This was MY day and my guests were my gifts. All we wanted was to share that day with people closest to us. I got more upset when we got our RSVP's back saying that some couldnt make it...understandably...but that just proves we were more interested in their presence and not their presents.

I have only been to one wedding that I didn't get them a gift and that was my bestfriends wedding I was a MOH in. Now don't get me wrong I did let her know ahead of time I wasn't getting her a present and it was ONLY because I flew her to Vegas for her batchlorette party and footed the entire bill. If I had not have done that I would have gotten them something really nice. Other then that even if I didn't know them all that well I still at least got them a small gift card and a congrats card.

Who shows up to a wedding with nothing in hand? Or nothing already shipped to the house. That is rude! I don't care about presents either, but I was just shocked people didn't have the common courtesy to bring something.

I won't expect a gift from out of town and unemployed guests. I had a few former coworkers who asked to be invited and brought nothing, not even a group card. Well, I like someone's idea of a thankyou note (we've plenty) and if you missed their gift, let you know. The whole debate on whether the couple should EXPECT gifts will always be there, we can't change our own perceptions and everyone responded are very reasonable. Just work with what you have and how you feel.

I guess the way I feel about it is.... fine if you don't bring a gift or card (though I think not even bringing a card is rude), but don't expect a thank you note. "Thanks for coming-- and having me spend X amount of money on you without any sort of thank you".... I don't know it makes me feel like a spoiled brat but I would be upset if people didn't at least bring a card. Like people say-- its the thought behind your gift. Doesn't matter how big or small... but if you didn't bring anything than clearly you weren't thinking about us

Fh and I are with Jessy as well. We don't care if our guest bring us a gift, card, or nothing at all. All we want is for our guest, our families, our friends; the people we love the most to share in our love and celebrate our union. It shouldn't matter one bit if you spent $100.00 or one million dollars on your weding..the cost/budget YOU set, not your guests. If all a couple wants are gifts and cards from people have a party like that. IF a couple wants people to share in their happiness and love, have a wedding.

Yes it did and we wondered why but that's life. Maybe they forgot or didn't think of it. It's not like a birthday party where it comes with the territory--sometimes people get so worried about what to wear to a wedding that they forget the gift?? who knows??

Ps--the people who did give us gifts more than made up for the few that didn't--they were very generous and wonderful! thanks be to God! And we're just so glad everyone could enjoy in our day God Bless

I understand what people are saying on ONE hand, Grant it your budget and what you pay is on what you decide, but my thing is this, don't come to my wedding or reception, just to see what I'm doing or did, to be nosey, and report on what you saw, or definitely don't come just to stuff your face with a "free meal" ( don't matter what your budget is FOOD is expensive), and not have the audacity to go to wal-mart and get a .99 card(they have ones that are cheaper then that, where you can look in couch cushions and pay for it) that says something nice on it and bring it... when I get married I don't expect a gift from everyone, but I do expect at least a card, I love my family friends and all that, but come on just a courtesy to acknowledge that you appreciate me inviting you to share in MY special day... that's all I'm saying... either you agree or you don't.... PERIOD!!!

When we sent out our invitations for the wedding, we asked FOR NO GIFTS, stating that you presence was our gift. We felt that since the wedding was 2 to 4 hrs away for most of the people and they would likely need overnight accommodations we did not want girts. Some did bring gifts but very few, and most were cards. This was something Hubby and I talked about BEFORE the wedding. We put a small card in the invite stating no gifts.

No offense, ThePotters, but your last posts sounds really contradictory to me.

WOW, this really has turned into a controversy! lol In my opinion our wedding is something that we spend tremendous time to plan and we plan this with all of the people that we want to share our special day with. A wedding is not about gifts and receiving money. It's about being able to marry our best friend and one true love. I know there are some people who depend or expect to get gifts/$$$ but, that's not a reason to invite tons of people. The reasoning behind inviting people is to share the moment where you are making a life long committment to the person you love. I would never expect to get a gift from all of my guests. I appreciate their presence and their good wishes. Just my opinion.

I agree with Jessica and Gershelda, it is about sharing in the moment not the gifts.