guests that come with no gift ?

You don't!! Why are you even tracking it? It wasn't your wedding and definitely isn't your job to make your sons guests feel bad about not giving a gift.

And Jennifer, same for you sweetie !! there are no high horses in my family at all... stop judging!! as stated before, it was just a honest question, something I never encountered before. There was no butting in into my son's and DIL's life at all. It was brought up, and was trying to see it from different prospectives. It was a wedding of 325 people and was very expensive mostly on the brides parents. There wasn't even one no gift from her invites, just the 8 from our list that came with no gifts. I wouldn't even have cared if there was just a card. It's not about money here, it's about the people on their high horses that think its acceptable. But where I come from it is a custom to bring a gift and I never heard of anyone thinking that it was ok not to... Sorry not sorry

Don't address it - it is not a bill that is owed. It's a gift someone gives or doesn't give freely.

With the attitude in OP's most recent comments, I think I know where the gifts are...

Name calling? Really?

Side note, I personally find it inconsiderate to show up to a wedding with a boxed gift. I mail them to the couple.

Why would you "address this?" That would be unbelievably rude. They came to your wedding, that's more than enough.

Where I come from, you never go to a party/celebration empty-handed! So, in this case, one should come with a card at the very least! None of my DH 's cousins even gave us a card at our wedding.

Oh and @Chris, if it is a pattern with these people, why do you continue to invite them? You know what the definition of insanity is right?

I understand your frustration completely, but it's really not a good idea to ask for the gift or question them at all. While it is proper etiquette to give a gift or money in a card it's most definitely not required and that's not why you invite people to a wedding.

@Richard YASSSSS

Chris, might I make an suggestion when it comes to posting on an internet forum? Read a bunch of the posts before posting. Learn the feel of the posters. Most of them are not rude, they are blunt and frank.

You have come across like your children are entitled to gifts. I have read back through everything. I would suggest that if you have grown children, let them fight their own battles and don't take their affairs to a bunch of random strangers on the internet. If you don't like what we have to say, then just ignore it. But deep down, I think you know that most of the people here are right in what they said.

Ok, so stopped reading like half way because I have a related question.

We have a reception to thank guests for coming to the ceremony then they give gifts (some have even suggested gifts should reflect the expense of the wedding - I'm not saying I agree with this just what I have heard) for what purpose? I guess it's just all feeling like a big blob of circular gifting. Like are they thanking us for thanking them? I know it's etiquette, but why is it etiquette to bring a gift? I always bring a gift too, but this is all starting to get complicated.

ETA: clarity

YOU DON'T! Enough said!

It's not required to bring a gift to the wedding, but you're not wrong, it is rude by most people's standards to not even bring a card. But it's still not required. It's definitely equally as rude to bring it up to them. Just let it go and move on. probably shouldn't have invited this family if you figured they wouldn't bring a gift and that would make you mad. Be happy those 317 other people were kind and brought gifts. I think your bringing up of that 317/325 ratio probably makes the point you shouldn't nitpick over 8 people not bringing a gift. Sounds like your son and his wife were plenty blessed.

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I know I have guests that won't bring gifts. It's okay! That's not the reason we invited them. My father's family (a few of them) don't have very much money at all. I am surprised they are coming. They are most likely using what they have to come to our wedding and that means the world to me! That's more meaningful than a gift!

Some people literally can only afford the gas in their cars to attend the wedding. Who cares if they didn't give a gift???

Nothing move on don't sweat the small stuff their presence at your wedding was your gift some people live pay check to pay check and barely are surviving be thankful

Wow. So in summary, 317 gifts aren't enough?

I'm honestly just hoping people are able to show up to my wedding haha being young I'm not expecting gifts at all.