guests that come with no gift ?

You don't. No one owes you any sort of gift. I think it's rude not to, but why get mad about it? Let it gooooo.

Gift are not required, but you should still send a Thank you note for being at your wedding...

You actually don't send a thank you note just for attendance. The reception is a thank you, and the couple would have hopefully thanked the guests for coming in person at the wedding.

Unfortunately, while rude, you shouldn't address it. However, if you do feel the need to get to that level, I like the idea of a heads up that the gift never arrived. While mildly tacky to some, it could be seen as helpful if they really did send a gift. I always get concerned about packages being stolen when I get a shipping delivery and no response about whether or not the got the gift/ liked the gift. I'm a little weird though so don't let me sway your decision lol

You don't. Just leave it be.

Is this a real concern? How very rude. Why don't you address the fact that you invited guests to your sons wedding with the expectation that they provide a gift rather than celebrate with the couple?

Don't say anything. It's rude. Assume all guests will not bring a gift.

You don't.

I had many families and individuals that did not even bring a card. It sucks but there is nothing you can or should do.

I have given an empty, yet heartfelt card before. It happens, especially when you put so much money into being someone's BM or MOH. Basically my gift to her so that I flew across the country three times, bought my entire outfit, rented my own car for the wedding week, stayed in a hotel during the wedding week, and supplied the BM gifts (large totes full of goodies), as well as pitched in for the bachelorette party. I spent about $3,000 on someone else's wedding. I did it out of love for her because her father had passed away, her mother was mentally unavailable and broke, and she had no family to help her. But that left funding for a cash gift unavailable and honestly, unnecessary.

What do you have to gain from bringing this up?

Some people lack class. Would I ever go to a wedding with no gift, or not send a gift if I was unable to attend? Absolutely not...some people either weren't taught proper etiquette, or choose to be ignorant unfortunately. I wouldn't mention the no gift thing to your guests though, that makes you look just as tacky as them.

It seems to be a pattern of this particular family to attend functions, whether it's a wedding, holiday or birthday to never bring a gift ( and on a side note, this family is not financially strapped at all)

So why are surprised/asking and it's none of your business if they are financially strapped.

You invited them.

They came.

That's all you get.

A gift is a bonus.

You don't! But I certainly keep a mental note of it

"So of course it needs to be addressed" - no Chris. It didn't need to be addressed and it should not have been addressed by your husband in the first place. That was rude of him. I can't believe that you've already cornered these people about their lack of gift and now you want to do it again! You want to harass them into giving your son a gift. This is so tacky.

Sometimes people send the gift after the wedding.

Sometimes people spend money to travel to weddings and don't have anything left over to give as a gift. You never know the financial struggles people are going through, and may be surprised.

Ultimately, it's never been a requirement to give a gift at a wedding, it's a bonus. Although I'm not having a destination wedding, a majority of my family is traveling from out of state. They have children, pets, mortgages, etc responsibilities of their own...and I am HONORED and humbled that they are taking the time and money to spend on attending my wedding. If I don't get gifts from people, then I consider their presence my present.

ETA: I was in between jobs at my friends wedding I was in as a bridesmaid a few months ago. I seriously had NO money and her wedding cost us at least $2000 by the end of it in between FH and I plane ticket, house rental, time off work, other travel expenses...that was money we really didn't have but he ended up covering it. So, I had to wait about a month until I started a job to have money, then I sent them gifts in the mail. You seriously never know what people are going through.

Don't address it that is so rude. Guests are not required to bring a gift and it's rude to bring it up. You don't know someone's situation.

Example: Me and my FH are attending a good friends wedding on Saturday. While we had every intention of getting a gift, my FH was laid off a few weeks ago and we are suddenly very financially stretched. When we get back on our feet I intend to get her something and send it to her, but for it to be brought up would be uncomfortable and rude.

Let it go.

@Kt and Byrne I was actually a little embarrassed that my MOH got me anything for my Shower. She put so much money into it that I expected nothing.

Sorry OP, but the gift is none of your concern. Is it tacky? Sure, but you need to stay out of this and let it go.

Your son is not entitled to a gift just because he got married

Also, I'm not sure why you're the one embarrassed about this, OP.

You didn't commit the faux pas...

..or did you?

Inquiring minds, OP. Inquiring minds...