Guests of guests

We gave plus 1's to anyone that was in a relationship.

All of our guests in relationships when invitations went out were invited with their significant others.

I would be uncomfortable judging someone else’s relationship based on the amount of time they had been together. I gave a guest to everyone in a relationship.

I gave every single person a guest with the exception of my cousins who are pre-teens. I figured that most people don't like to go to weddings without a date...but it's up to you.

View Quoted Comment I thought so too, I mean a couple of people in the wedding are younger people. For example one of our bridesmaids is my fiancée’s niece and she’s had three boyfriends in four months. And also a lot of our guests know each other so they’ll definitely have people to talk to and hang out with

If they’re in a relationship, I am inviting the significant other by name. I’m not giving any plus ones. I would like to, but I just don’t have the space.

We’re giving everyone a plus one, like someone said before, it’s not up to us to judge how “serious” a relationship is

All guests who have a significant other at the time that you send the invitations should be given a guest. If they are truly single at the time you send out the invitations, you do not need to offer them a plus one.

We invited everyone by name if they were in a relationship at the time we sent invitations. It didn’t matter how long, just whether they considered themselves in a relationship. My now husband accompanied me to a wedding across the country when we had been dating for 2 months, that bride ended up standing by my side 2 years later at my wedding!

Most of our friends are in long-term relationships or married, so giving them plus-ones wasn't an issue. However, I had to draw the line for my (large) extended family--we only gave plus ones to married or engaged family members. Bringing bf/gf to our family's weddings is implicitly frowned upon, and it's not like any of my relatives will be all alone or bored.

Engaged or living together and the living together is an exception to one really good friend. Otherwise married couples, singles and engaged persons only. Not personal but Food is $$$$.

View Quoted Comment SAME! We only have a few teenagers, and they are the only ones who won’t get a plus one .

We gave plus ones to anyone in a relationship and anyone who wouldn’t know someone else at the wedding. My single college girlfriends who know a ton of people coming will not be getting a plus one.

I think the traditional rule of thumb is 6 months or longer.

Judging the seriousness of a relationship by arbitrary cut-off date (like "no one who's been dating under a year") is not cool, especially when you're inviting them to celebrate your own relationship. Adults should always be invited with their significant other. The exception to that rule would be people under 18, usually.

Only the members of a possible couple know whether or not they are a couple. It has nothing to do with time, engagement, or living together. If it's not clear, ask one of them. A couple is a social unit and each member is invited by name. This is required, just as if they were married.

A plus-one is the guest of a guest; plus-ones are optional.

I only am only giving plus ones to guests that have been in a dating relationship for 1 year or longer. All married couples even if I have never met the spouse are allowed to bring their partner.

Most of our guests are in committed relationships (married, engaged, or living with their partner), but a few of our guests are single, casually dating, or have very on-again-off-again relationships with their SOs. Anyone in a committed relationship is invited along with their partner, and the others we are generally dealing with on a case-by-case basis. I have a couple friends from grad school who aren't dating and will be invited solo without plus ones and my FH's sister is dating around but getting a plus one because his mom requested it (and his parents contributed to our wedding so I feel like if they think she should have a random guest I'll go along with it as long as we know it won't cause drama). I generally hate random plus ones because I think its really unfair to expect a couple hosting an expensive event to pay for and include someone they have never met and doesn't have significant meaning to their intended guest.

For those guests who have a loosely defined SO, I'm reaching out to them ahead of time to clarify what would make them most comfortable. In most cases, I want them to feel like they have the option to bring their partner and that their partner feels welcome if that's what our guests want, but I also don't want to put their partner's name on the invite if our friends kinda need a break or the relationship is in a rough spot and having a wedding to go to together would make things more complicated. This is only a few people, all of whom I feel comfortable having that conversation with, so I'm not too worried about it. We sent our STDs via email specifically to those actually invited, but will address our paper snail mail invites to the "unit" so its really clear who is and isn't invited.

I think a case by case basis, if you can afford that level of detail, is better than just making a blanket arbitrary timeline before a relationship is considered significant. I went to the first weddings with my FH after we had been dating for 7 and 8 months respectively, but those invites went out at least 2 months earlier so his friends were making the decision to include me after we had been dating for just a few months, and I was likely on their radar as a person shortly after their STDs had been sent out, which didn't include me at all because they were sent before I was even in the picture. By the times the weddings rolled around it would have felt disappointing to me and my FH if I hadn't been included, but we both would have totally understood. In both cases, his friends knew he didn't really "date around" much and didn't tend to have short lived flings, so they felt that I was a significant person in his life and worth including. One of the couples said they had other guests with partners that had been dating longer than us, but they just knew that those partners were less likely to be established figures down the road, so didn't invite them.

I do think it's totally fine to not include the partner of someone who has only been briefly dating, especially if you don't have a connection with the partner or the person you are inviting isn't someone you are super close to or then tend to have short lived relationships. I went to MANY weddings solo when I was single and it was never ever a problem for me or anyone else.

Couples dating 1 year or more. Or no ring no bring.
We personally cant invite everyone and dont want to. We wont be supplying plus ones for anyone single. We are no giving plus ones to people who just started seeing or dating someone

The number of people on here nickel-and-diming their friends'/family members' relationship timelines as a measure of guest-list-worthiness is... really disheartening. The thought of y'all looking up Instagram posts for any signs of dating anniversaries in order to determine if your friend's boyfriend has been around for exactly 1 year or beyond is such a strange concept.