Guest wedding Attire.

View Quoted Comment Wow! I understand? Gotta work on him early 😂😂

Our wedding was the first “formal” wedding On my side of the family and at my sil’s wedding everyone changed Into jeans after the ceremony. So, I knew we had to specify on our invites somehow because our circle is not used to that kind of occasion. Our ceremony was in a church so I used that to my advantage. I put a details card in with the invite that addressed dress code. I said something like respectful attire is requested (ladies need to be modest and no jeans). My husband was very adamant about no jeans and said he would have turned anyone away who showed up wearing them (he had someone specific in mind in his side). Everyone showed up dressed appropriately.
I always appreciate a mention about dress because you never know what to expect, and I want to be dressed appropriately. And I think it’s especially important with some of these “trendy” barn venues. I attended one a few years ago. The invitation looked pretty fancy however it was literally an open shelter with a dirt floor in the middle of a field. They had port a potties. I didn’t super dress up, but still I’d say I was a bit over dressed.

View Quoted Comment This is a big day for u and people should not have a problem looking there very best! Best wishes!! 🎉

View Quoted Comment Thank you and I totally agree 🥰‼️

View Quoted Comment Ok... I have nothing to add to your comment, but must thank you for introducing me to an Australian term I have to somehow work into future American conversation. 😀

I honestly don’t care. I think if you’re enforcing a dress code your wedding better meet the standards for that dress code. I’m not going to be thinking about who wore what besides me and my wedding party.

Besides the main people I want in our pictures, I could care less what everyone else wears because I know I won't remember. I want people to be comfortable and if they are comfortable in jeans and a polo then great! Then again we aren't having a super fancy wedding and I've actually never been to a wedding myself where someone didn't wear jeans and got turned away.

View Quoted Comment Haha you’re welcome! It’s one of the few idioms that is accurate and very much used 😂

In Texas it is common in the rural areas for men to wear jeans to the wedding. Several grooms and their groomsmen wear jeans with a sports coat for the ceremony. I think a lot would depend on where the wedding was held as it may be a cultural thing. I know people will show up to my wedding in jeans, but it doesn’t bother me one but. Of course, I’m also small town Texan so it’s what I know. I can see how it would be a shock to those that didn’t grow up around it, I’d have the same level of awe at a black tie wedding - we literally have no where to have those where I’m from.

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"I think that if you're paying for the person's dinner it should be your call."

Why? You're paying for their dinner as a thank you for attending.

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Black tie and white tie events are the only times that it's appropriate to note the type of event (not dress code) on the invitations, actually, so it's actually not 'not good etiquette' in your case.

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Ha, well there you have it! Where I live, all wedding invites specify a dress code (whether it be smart casual, formal, black tie etc) so it's interesting that in the States this seems to be quite controversial re informing guests of this.

View Quoted Comment I agree, it’s not asking much!!

View Quoted Comment When it’s your event and your funds that are paying for it, it’s your call😊‼️

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That's not what I was saying at all. I don't agree with trying to control how guests dress, and I don't understand the mindset of "I'm paying for their dinner, I get to tell them how to dress." You're paying for their dinner because you're saying thank you to them; the focus should be on making a good experience for them, not making sure they fit your vision and decor.

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That's not how hosting works, or at least is supposed to work.

View Quoted Comment I wish the invites came from the venue.

View Quoted Comment I have to say as an event planner, I just would have to disagree. Why should you not have a say in the day you have been waiting your whole life for?

I think a request for Sunday's best is appropriate. These are photos you are going to have for the rest of your life and you want them to be nice. People will understand that.

View Quoted Comment I agree with that 😊