Guest vomited all over rug at reception...

Has the guest mentioned anything about it to you? You can ask him to pay, but as the host and your name on the contract, unfortunately you are ultimately responsible for paying them if he doesn’t.

Unfortunately I think you're SOL. I mean it would be one ballsy move to send them the invoice BUT if you are fine with that, then do it. I mean I don't really think there is anything wrong with it and I would want to do it but I think in the end of the day I would be a little nervous it would equal confrontation that I didn't really want to have.

Unfortunately, I don't think you can ask for reimbursement. You are the host and therefore it is your responsibility to cover any costs/damages associated with your party. If it happened in your home, at a party, you wouldn't send them a bill for cleaning so, I don't think you should do it now.

As a guest, if I was sick, I would be mortified and would definitely want to cover any cleaning fees. This is obviously the proper thing to do but, not everyone will offer. Hopefully, your guest will do the stand up thing and offer to make this right on his own without you needing to ask. If not, and you have wedding insurance this might be covered (but, I'm not sure it would be worth the effort).

I think me sending them the bill would depend on who it was. If it was a sibling, or one of my cousins that I am pretty close too, then I wouldn't hesitate!! If it were a guest that was there because we are friends, but not necessarily someone I am completely open with... I would probably eat the bill.

I need more details. Was it too much drinking or food poisoning heat? Have they mentioned anything about it? Personally, over drinking andvomiting, I would have no problem sending the bill. My fiance and I ended up paying 1000 dollars because someone threw up in our apartment the day before we moved out, i am still so irritated by this. But I mean we were also 19... how old was this guest, have they apologized, did they ruin your wedding night or did you feel sorry for them?

I am sorry this happened to you!! Be glad it was ON you!! Truly my biggest fear bahah

View Quoted Comment To this. If it was a guest at my home, depending on the circumstance I would hand them a towel and have them clean up their mess. It's called holding people accountable for their actions and I dont think it is always a bad thing. Really depends on the context of the situation(why they threw up in the first place)

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It is for sure from drinking. he hasn't mentioned anything since the day after the wedding 2 weeks ago. he did apologize but hasn't really offer any compensation besides that. this guest is at least 33 years old haha you would think he would be responsible.

he didn't really ruin my night but he kinda made me annoyed for maybe 30 minutes since the site manager cut off all hard alcohol for the rest of the wedding and only allowed wine/beer. i didn't see the vomiting happen but i was curious who vomited and was investigating who was drinking irresponsibly. reflecting back on that i wish i had moved on and not that let that affect me.

Maybe I'm petty but I would mention it to him. People should be responsible for their actions. Does he know it cost $200? I'd say hey just so you know the venue charged us $200 to clean your puke. If he doesn't offer to cover it then he's rude. Just think of it reveresed, if you drank too much and threw up at a wedding, would you offer to cover the cleaning costs? I know I would. But I also wouldn't drink that much to begin with. Good luck either way!

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WOW he really needs to be held accountable for his actions, especially because it affected the entire wedding reception and the guests.

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No he doesn't know the cleaning cost. I'm just unsure how to casually bring it up i'm not super close to him (it is my husband's friend)

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Yeah he left immediately/escorted out (?) after so i don't think he knew they cut off all hard alcohol my husband actually tried to hide this info from me during the reception lol

First of all did you have a certified bartender? Did you or the venue are him? If you had a bartender it is their legal responsibility not to over serve. If they did then honestly an argument could be made that it is their responsibility to ensure no one gets to that point. If the venue hired him then I would take this up with the venue. I would also speak the guest, inquire as to if they are feeling ok, and inform them that there was a cleaning fee of $200 for his mess. Hopefully they will offer to pay this. If not I would tell them that it is their responsibility to pay it. If it was a child, or do to food poisoning, heat, or if they were elderly I would have no issue covering the costs. The fact that the person is in their 30's, made the decision to get drunk, and then was sick it is their responsibility to pay for the damages.

Unfortunately I think you are SOL. Any damage done at our venue is on the couple......this is stipulated in the contract.

I hate not being able to edit a comment. I do bartender at our venue.......Not everyone who is drinking is coming to the bar. So many people get drinks for others. We have no problem cutting people off....:.but what we can’t see we can’t off.

A polite guest would offer. A polite host would never ask.

I wouldn't! Upon signing the contract, I'd imagine you were told of this potential charge and you assumed the responsibility. FH's paid a 200 cleaning fee for our engagement party, and that was just standard for cleaning after any party. Are you sure this wasn't just a general cleaning fee or it was definitely due to the incident?

That isnt steep for cleaning and you absorb the cost. You were the host.

Too easy for the person to claim that as the host, you allowed the venue bartenders to over serve your guests. And sometimes the law would rule either way in whether you, the venue, or the guest was most at fault. So in the absence of any clear cut way of assignment of responsibility for cleaning costs, you signed the contract and the venue over served, and could be reported to the licensing board or liquor commission. So you ask the venue to cut the charge in half, and say you will agree to mutual responsibility.

This is so gross.... I'm sorry this happened and you have to deal with it. (It sets a whole new standard, "Good wedding! No guests vomited all over the floor!") If he's a friend of H's, if H is comfortable with it, I'd have him talk with the guy and let him know the ramifications of his actions (e.g., partially shutting down the bar and the cleaning fee) and how uncool that was. (My husband would have NO problem calling a male friend out on something like this.) Hopefully, the friend offers to pay (and, if not, H has the option to ask him to). If husband doesn't want to talk with him, I'd let it go. I also would be really careful about what, if anything, you invite this guy to in the future. Bad behavior has consequences....

I am very sorry this happened to you.

Ha! though irritating it is also pretty comical! If you are somewhat close to the guest id send a light hearted note saying something like well we all know you had a great time at our wedding, and your contract with the venue didnt cover THAT much fun, so if he could please consider pitching in to pay for this? if it's someone's plus one you dont know or care about id just send them the bill w a nice note to please cover it. if they get all upset or mad about it - who cares. BUT anyone nice or reasonable or w common sense will pay and send an apologetic note back.