Guest colors

Honestly I think it would be rude to ask your guests to wear certain colors because not everyone looks good in red or blue. Unless you were a relative or best friend I would roll my eyes and decline to come

View Quoted Comment I agree with her.

Not gonna lie: If I rec'd an invite telling me what colors to wear, I would not attend. So now in addition to a gist I have to go buy new clothes? Nope. Sorry.

View Quoted Comment I disagree with this a lot of invites will stipulate dress code on whether it’s black tie or semi formal. Guests should be aware of dress code and sometimes folks need to be educated on such matters.

View Quoted Comment I do agree about not mentioning color unless it’s a costume ball type wedding or it’s Black Tie. If the guests you invite like to participate in things like this it could be a really fun experience

View Quoted Comment Black tie goes beyond dress code though. It denotes a level of service and formality. For black tie, it’s expected that the event have white glove service, live band, open bar, valet parking service and a ton of other qualities.
It’s not ok to tell adults what to wear to your event. The exception is black tie or any venue restrictions.

View Quoted Comment I agree that black tie goes beyond dress code but Los out in mind that when guests are going to an event there is this question of what to wear so I deem it appropriate and customary to alert guests on the level of formality of dress so that no one feels out of place. Everyone who gets invited to the met gala has to show up within the theme of the party. Better to inform guests and have them in the know vs not telling them and having them guess.

View Quoted Comment Well I see this discussion went to far so after all the back lash I never got back up her but to let everyone know I got married last year on 5-29 and guess what everyone wore black or gold and it was beyond beautiful so whomever that didn’t like and thought it was a problem that’s cool but again I spent my money and feed them my food and drinks lasted all night so it was my wedding and I did it my way but thanks for all the negative comments though and if y’all want me too I’ll post pictures

View Quoted Comment I get what you’re saying, but this is an etiquette board. It’s not within etiquette to impose a dress code other than black tie. Adults will know how to dress by the venue and the formality of the invitation.

To clarify, I mean specify dress code on the invitation.

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I kind of WOULD love to see pictures! I think it's ok to specify certain colours IFFFFF it's a suggestion not a command, and also, knowing your audience. I think if you know your crowd and they'd think this was a fun extra thing to participate in, then great!

I know I'd be excited to be invited to a wedding with a colour theme, and wouldn't be offended at all, but some older or more conservative people might, so it's a case of making sure you are aware of how your guests might react.

For my hen's party, I suggested to my sister and SIL who are organising that if they wanted to suggest people wear pink, that would be nice, but no one is obligated to wear it, it's just a fun suggestion, and I'm really looking forward to seeing how people interpreted the theme - likewise, if anyone turns up NOT in pink, no problem at all, I'm just happy they've come, you know?

View Quoted Comment Congratulations! Would love to see some pics!

View Quoted Comment I agree but you’d be amazed at how many folks don’t know what “Black Tie” is or what it means and sometimes folks don’t think to go do a google search to find out. Lol sometime you gotta help people help themselves 😂

View Quoted Comment I’ve been around here awhile, and yes you’re right, often “black tie” is suggested without any idea of what it means. A lot of posters think that just means “dress up”.