Guest colors

I don't think it's a bit much at all. It's your wedding and whatever you want you should do. I am putting a dress code on my invitations. Dress to impress.

View Quoted Comment Nope hun, it's your wedding no one else opinions matters especially if they not paying for it.

It’s not too much. People take offense to every little thing that is really not that serious..🙄geesh. I’ve seen plenty of themed weddings where guests are wearing all black or all white or all red ect. Now I would make not make it mandatory as someone may not have what you’re requesting and they shouldn’t feel obligated to purchase clothing just to be in attendance. But it’s certainly not too much to ask guests to wear a certain color scheme that’s befitting to theme.

Shesesh, the comments on here are tough. I think you should do what makes you happy. It’s your big day! I don’t think adding to the invitation “all black affair” is a big deal. Everyone owns something black...it’s like the easiest color to shop for. Personally I don’t mind what my guest wear but if you have a vision do it sis 🥰 I hope this comment made you feel a little better.

Personally i prefer to be told what i can wear. It makes me more anxious to try and guess the colors the bridal party is wearing cause i don't want to match it.


I also hate when i go to a wedding and i see ppl not dressed appropriately, sorry if that makes me rude, but too many ppl dress inappropriately for things and if a bride has to pay hundreds or thousands for her dress then the least u can do is dress nicely too (assuming its not casual). if youre not asking anything unreasonable (like some crazy colors like white or lime green or yellow) then i dont think it matters.
Id assess your crowd though - i am puttong 'semi formal suggested' on the website. Maybe put it on your website. Sometimes it's not what you ask too its how you ask it. Ask them to stick to the theme of x colors is not too bad. But definitely dont say if u dont stick to that then dont come lol.

View Quoted Comment You can add another mini card inside the invitation that asks in a cute way that they wear a certain color. Like, "please indulge us by wearing royal blue to show our love is true blue." Then you also should put this on your wedding website and enlist all of your wedding party bridesmaids and groomsmen to spread the word to attendees as well. Then make sure you too, verbally tell guests and include it again on your Save the Date reminder.
Meanwhile, the angst you are hearing is from people who want you to remember that this is the most important day of your life and the most important to your budget. Guests, of course, have something else that is the most important to their budget and lives, sometimes that is just survival and keeping a money cushion for a rainy day. Yet, they love you and want to see you happy on your big day. So, after buying you a gift for the shower, spending money on hair/makeup for the wedding, buying another gift for the wedding, attending rehearsal dinners to which they may have bought a nice outfit for that, and planned on wearing something they already had in their closet to your wedding, a request of color could mean buying a new suit/dress to attend your wedding. Meaning, your wedding is becoming a priority in their budget and with the ask of color, some may feel you are thinking about your desires and not considering their own autonomy.

Nom I don't think it's too much. I've been to a couple all white weddings and one wedding where all guests were asked to wear black or blue only. I thought it was really cute and you got to see how creative people could be as far as the way they styled their outfits.

I was going to tell people not to wear the wedding colors; white purple and gold. Is that too much?

View Quoted Comment No, that is not too much. It is usually the wording that steers people the offensive way when making a request not to do something. Some people will disagree and consider it rude, yet some people also don't like ketchup on their french fries. Meaning, you can't please every single being. I suggest you verbally spread the word and have all your bridal party do the same. On your wedding website, be sure to make it prominent that there are many colors on the spectrum, so guests may choose their favorite, yet are encouraged to avoid: white, purple, & gold.

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That's not a thing. The only color guests should refrain from wearing is white. It's totally fine to wear red to a wedding.

Thanks you so much

Hi! I actually am thinking of the same, but just of our family members. (I want it to look nice and coordinated in photos). I say, it’s a day about you and your fiancé, so do what makes you happy!!

View Quoted Comment Thanks and yes I think the pictures will be everything

View Quoted Comment I agree. My fiancé and I aren’t having bridesmaids or groomsmen so we are color coordinating our immediate family’s outfits so they will be within our color scheme to stand out and look good together. I think it’s fine to ask people to wear certain colors. Best of luck!

It’s definitely not uncommon to get a invitation for formal attire. I forget the wording but it’ll usually say “black tie affair” which means after 5pm attire. I’ve seen weddings where all the guests wore white. It looked really nice. Cynthia Bailey’s recent wedding had all her guests in black while the wedding party wore all white. An invitation has to go out with those details so, no, it’s not rude to express having your guests wear a certain color.

I think it depends on how you word it, and also what colors you’re requiring your guests to wear. For example, if you invite me and require me to wear red I might not have anything red in my closet so that means I have to go shopping. Usually, that’s no problem but if what I can’t afford a new dress for one night?


It’s totally your call cuz it’s your wedding, but I think I wouldn’t like receiving that invitation.

View Quoted Comment Your answer is exactly why I started refusing to be a bridesmaid. I've been in several weddings to which the bride expected a devotion of my money and time as if her big day was also the most important fiscal event of my year and my time was expected on a whim or on the spot for changes that happened coupled with the endless(what it seemed like) rehearsals, meetings, group calls/texts, constant phone calls, gifts and parties before we even had the wedding. So, now as a guest, if someone is asking me to do the holey pokey as well as turn myself around, I'm not going.

View Quoted Comment Many people have lost all sense of proportion. A wedding is a day plus a few afternoons or evenings, and not the most important day in most people's lives. I was snickering over 2 posts I read last night where in the midst of people saying, for mostly local people, if you send Saves at all, 4-5 months will do. In both, a few brides chime in that true they might not have to travel far, but they should get Saves at 12 months out, because it may take a year for the to save up for the wedding❗Oh right, for the gifts, the tux rental though you are serving barbecue, the 5 day mini vacation, the major present and shower gift...Like it never occurred to them that any local wedding you have to save up for , for more than 6 months, you should decline? People SHOULD NOT need to save a year for any wedding. The couple is expecting too much. More Princess behavior, like telling guests what to wear.

I think you should do what you want! I personally don’t agree with it, but that doesn’t matter. If the guests care about you and want to be part of your special day they will follow it. 😊

View Quoted Comment I think most people are okay with it. I recently went to a wedding where we were all asked to wear neutral colors to fit with their boho theme. The photos and video look amazing!