Guest colors

You keep trying to justify your decision, so clearly you are going to make this a requirement to attend your wedding. However, your family and friends now you better than we do, so unlike us this will not be a surprise to them.

View Quoted Comment I totally understand that

View Quoted Comment That was me. I was wrong. Apparently, it's changed. It used to be that you didn't. Weddings used to mostly happen in churches and wearing red to church used to be a big no-no. Only Jezebels did it.

I don’t think it’s a bad idea. IT sounds fun attending a wedding with a theme color. As long as the color is not hard to find. I would maybe ask your closest guest and see how they feel. The pictures would look so pretty.

View Quoted Comment That’s all I was saying but I guess ppl didn’t see it that way!!

I feel as if it’s your wedding . If you want guest to wear certain colors that’s your preference , if they want to come they will abide by your rule .

View Quoted Comment Right Paris but to some ppl that’s rude crazy part when u go to a wedding u wear the colors anyway I just don’t want anyone to wear red and everyone wear black and gold the easiest color of them all

View Quoted Comment I say go for it ! It’s YOUR DAY.

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Phew! Deep breaths hun, after reading a lot of the comments I do feel like some were a bit too harsh and not giving supporting advice from a loving place. This forum is to help brides through their wedding struggles. We may not all agree with each other decisions and that's fine, but I see these comments are making you feel discouraged on having an avenue to vent and ask for opinions and that is NOT fair to you at all . Please dont feel discouraged to ask for opinions, take the good with the bad.AT the end of the day YOUR wedding will be beautiful with whatever you decide. Pray on it and move with God. None of us will be there but you and the people you know and who love and care about YOU, and whatever you decide will be best! With that said take all these opinions with a grain of salt like we say in the islands. I too have also been to a wedding that required a dress code (WHITE) and I thought it was fun especially finding something in a color I never wore and playing it up for a special occasion.....everyone is assuming what your guest will think. NOT everyone of your guest will feel your being rude or asking too much. Besides it takes the worry out of picking a color, no one cares that much about what color they going to wear for a wedding since they are coming to support YOU + Hubby thats it! Also if others show up with the colors not recommended they will feel out of place when they see everyone else wearing the same colors haha! Also you will be so happy on your wedding day to care if they do😊 Have fun with your wedding planning, enjoy the ups and downs of it. As I said your big day will be lovely and everything you ever imagined, i hope you and your soon to be hubby have a blast with your loved ones. And please dont hesitate to ask for more questions no matter how trivial you may think it is, We are here for you! 🥰

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Speak for yourself. Being told what to wear adds a huge amount of stress to me; it doesn't take any stress off at all.

I'm not here to be a yes girl for all the ideas, bad and good, that people come up with. I'm here to advocate for etiquette and speak up for the guests, whose desires and needs sometimes get forgotten or overlooked in the bride and groom's "vision."

Telling your guests how to dress is inappropriate, period.

Hi Sada! I've not read all of the comments (may have this suggestion already), but this would be something, if it's really important to you, to put on your wedding website. You can ask, but one can't demand. We are putting 'black tie, suggested,' but I know everyone will not do it and that's OK with us. Best wishes!!

I don't think there's anything wrong with asking people to wear certain colors to your wedding, but I think it's a bit rude to your guests, and the people you love, if you deny them entry because of what color shirt they're wearing. I'm saying this because there's a good chance that you might run into major hostility by your family if you kick grandma out cuz she decides to wear green.

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Personally, I wouldn't ask but only because I like the look of everyone's unique outfits. Getting too matchy matchy can be tacky imo. BUT- I disagree with everyone else.. I think you can ask them to "Please wear gold or black! Also, please don't wear red- that is the color of the bride's dress!" Just like a costume party.. I don't see what the big deal is? As long as you are friendly and not rude about it. Also, you have to realize they may not comply. But I think it's fine to "request" they wear black or gold! If they don't- oh well. I went to my cousins wedding and they asked us all to wear vintage 1920's outfits! Most people did and the pictures were gorgeous!!

I put on my invites, no solid black and no solid white and no one questioned me about it. At the end of the day it's your wedding and whatever you say goes.

I actually don't see the big deal. It all depends on how it's worded if you're putting it on the invite. It will probably go over better if it's worded as a request. Something along the lines of "we would love if you wear the colors of the day: black & gold." Even if you list certain colors as a "requirement" people may still not oblige. If I were a guest I wouldn't take offense to it either way, but apparently I'm in the minority lol. The aesthetics for the day should be as laid back or as controlled as you want it to be. But again, you also have to be ready for people to completely ignore it and still show up. Good luck!

I think it would be fine especially when you look back at your photos and everything is color coordinated 😍

Yes I think so. Everyone knows not to wear what’re to a wedding 🤷🏻‍♀️

It’s your wedding! I say you do what makes you happy!

In all honesty, I wish someone would just tell me what to wear! It's my biggest hang-up of the day figuring out what to put on. Seriously, who doesn't have something black to wear???? If it was chartreuse or burnt orange then it might be a problem, but I would still do it...Sada, I do not find your request unreasonable at all!

You make your own rules! Don’t let anyone talk you out of it if it’s important to your vision. If you feel like you need a compromise, you could always give them a sort of color range. That’s my plan. I hate bright colors but my wedding is in spring, so I said “dark garden party attire.” We get to make our own rules! we are the ones that have to look at the photos of everyone haha.