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Guest colors

Sada, on October 28, 2020 at 11:31 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 2 163
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Do you all think it’s ok to put on the invitations only wear certain colors??? I was told it was a bit much!!! That’s what I want though...

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Latest activity by Florida Marlins, on November 16, 2020 at 4:05 PM
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    Devoted August 2021
    Ingrid ·
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    I think this might be viewed as over barring and controlling. If you are ok with people thinking that of you and your request them I don't see an issue.


    But on the flip side imagine how you would feel if an event you are invited to had a color requirement to attend. I would say let it go as it would be one less thing to worry about and possibly one less thing to be disappointed with when people don't comply.
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  • Sada
    Savvy May 2021
    Sada ·
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    Yea that is true! But just like going to an all black or an all white affair or a costume party and you are required to wear what they ask I think it shouldn’t be a problem because if someone else invited me I would wear what they ask idk but I understand we’re you’re coming from
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    Michele ·
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    You do not mention dress code at all or colors for guests to wear anywhere on the invite.
    Unless a super rare situation arises where the venue requires a tux and ballgown for entry like the Oscars level of formal, you don't say a word. Guests wear semiformal/Sunday Best attire by default.
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  • Sada
    Savvy May 2021
    Sada ·
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    Well I want them to wear certain colors and it’s a color I do not want anyone to wear but me so I had to let them know I didn’t or haven’t any complaints but my soon to be mother in law did not like the ideal 🤷🏽‍♀️
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  • Samantha
    Devoted September 2020
    Samantha ·
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    Depending on the requirement, me as the guest would most likely do it. It depends on the color tho. I don’t have many dress outfits and if I had to go purchase something to attend a wedding I was a guest to, i most likely wouldn’t.
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  • Sada
    Savvy May 2021
    Sada ·
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    The colors are not anything hard to find but I feel as if they can’t wear it they don’t have to come I’m find with that too can’t be mad at them
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    Judith ·
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    This is generally considered a rude thing to do. You and the groom may choose your own color and style, and the clothing only of your attendants ( not hair, body) while they are participating in your ceremony. But all you tell others is level of foality. Treat them like adults who can choose color and style of clothes for themselves. Your parents, other family, and guests are neither paid models, nor props for your pictures, and it is insulting to treat them as though they are.
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  • Sada
    Savvy May 2021
    Sada ·
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    Understandable but it’s my wedding so I don’t think it’s a problem if they were going to an costume party or all white party or black party they would participate so I really don’t think it’s a bad ideal but thanks for your opinion
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  • Jodie
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    Jodie ·
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    This comment is coming across as “if you don’t wear xxx color then you don’t have to come to the wedding.” Not sure if that was your intention. If so, I would be pretty hurt as a guest that you care about the overall look of your day more than you do the people you are choosing to celebrate with.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    Honestly, it’s very overbearing. What color are you wanting them to wear or not wear?
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    Judith ·
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    If I was participating in some theme party, rather than being treated like a guest at your wedding, I would not spend $100-150
    on a wedding gift, or show up at your shower. I would consider wearing your choice of color participation enough. This recent idea that brides are entitled to forget all usual courtesy, boss people around, and have everyone expected to say " It's her wedding, and I will do anything she wants! "
    as though she is Queen for a day, is ridiculous.
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    Veronica ·
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    Just because if is your wedding day doesn't mean you should boss your guests around. Also, the idea that you don't want them there if they don't comply makes it seem like you don't really even care about your guests at all.
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    Devoted May 2021
    Ally ·
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    This is not gonna go over well with your guests at all honestly. People pay to travel to your wedding, give you a gift, sometimes take off work. The very last thing they need is to go buy a new outfit for your wedding. Shouldnt matter what they wear
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  • Erin
    Expert May 2021
    Erin ·
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    If you dress is white, guests SHOULD know nit to wear all white.. if you feel you need to control the mil then go for it.. if you have a different color dress then be upfront about “my wedding dress color is “x” please dont wear that x color” you should be fine...
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  • Sada
    Savvy May 2021
    Sada ·
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    My dress color is red I ask them to wear black or gold I don’t think that’s too much
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    I understand asking them not to wear the color of your dress, but anything else not for a wedding. It's not a costume party/all white party/blackout party etc, it honestly is a bit much for a wedding.

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  • Sada
    Savvy May 2021
    Sada ·
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    Well I don’t have a lot of ppl coming everyone I discuss it with was ok honestly we’re I’m from that’s how it’s done I have been to a wedding that ask to wear all white and black also have been to one that ask to dress up in cowboy boots and hats and dresses because that what the bride request and we did so that’s how it’s done we’re I’m from
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    Well there was no need to ask for everyones opinion if you have your mind made up lol. It seems like most people answered that they thought it was a bit much but you clearly have your mind made up. Its your wedding you can do what you want, but you asked for everyones opinion!

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  • Sada
    Savvy May 2021
    Sada ·
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    Still wanted n opinion since my future mother in law had a problem with it I thought about changing it but I didn’t know everyone was gonna jump down my back lol but yea u right my mind is made up
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    Veronica ·
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    It should tell you something that no one agrees with you.
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