Guest colors

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So what are you gonna do if a guest comes wearing a different color? Have them removed?

View Quoted Comment It should but I never been the one to change my mind about other ppl opinions especially when it comes to something I’m doing ppl talk about the color of my dress and most definitely did not agree and still don’t everyone still want me to change the color of my dress and wedding colors so I’m guessing I should do that too

View Quoted Comment Y’all taking this too far I’m just gonna remove and get out of this discussion but most likely

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It's not too far its a legitimate question lol If someone comes wearing something other than black or gold what is your plan?

View Quoted Comment Most likely they want get in it’s not like I haven’t been told everyone thy had 5-6 months so they knew already

If you are considering refusing entry to guests (who are supposed to be your closest friends and loved ones) that do not wear your mandated colors, it sounds like you have completely lost sight of the purpose of the day. It is a wedding - the day you and your FH will pledge your love and commitment to each other. It's not a costume party, and people are not props. Based on your other post - you have enough to worry about. Good news - what your friends and family wear to celebrate your marriage does not need to be one of those things. If you want a costume party, Halloween is on Saturday - throw a costume party then.

View Quoted Comment Lol y’all funny for one they don’t have a problem with it again we’re I’m from that’s how we do things I really don’t have a lot to worry about yes I’m planning myself but my wedding is not till May and everything has been paid for only thing I’m worry bout is whether I want to change whether to ask them to wear black or gold for one y’all are negative about the situation and don’t see we’re I’m coming from ppl we’re I’m from do this all the time but thanks for your opinion and maybe I will change to a costume party

Oh wow, that's crazy. It's your wedding but don't lose sight of the REAL reason for that day. For you and your fiancé to get married, not for a photoshoot. What they wear doesn't matter at all. Hopefully you and his mother can come up with something because it would be crazy to deny her entry because she doesn't agree with being told what color to wear....

View Quoted Comment She wearing black and gold she want me to change my dress color cause it’s not traditional and the color so I guess I should but she good she gonna be there either way

Well goodluck with everything, hopefully it turns out okay and no one has to be denied entry

I've read some of the comments and I have to agree with a lot of the advice you've been given by PPs. I think you can create a wedding website where you ENCOURAGE guests to wear black and gold (key word: encourage) but I can't imagine enforcing this. But it sounds like your mind is already made up and I really hope you don't end up denying people entry to your wedding because they aren't wearing the color you want.

View Quoted Comment I thought the same thing ... maybe notifying guests that black and gold attire is PREFERRED (not required) so people know there is a preferred color scheme. I honestly don’t see a problem with stating your preference, but the extreme and over the top part to me is the denial of entrance if guests don’t wear those colors.

I may be going against the grain here, but I don’t think it’s too much to ask people to wear a certain color scheme to your wedding. 🤷🏾‍♀️ Plenty of people have done it where they hold all-white or all-black weddings (even costume weddings) and their guests comply. I don’t think it’s “too much” or that you’re losing sight of what your wedding is really about (that’s a bit harsh, no?), it’s just something you prefer aesthetically and a way for you to enjoy YOUR and your future spouse’s wedding more. “Etiquette” tends to be outdated and classist; so do what works for you and your spouse. The way I see it, (if we’re looking at it transactionally) you’re spending a decent amount of money to send out invites, feed, host, and accommodate your guests in a heck of a lot of other ways. Asking/encouraging people to wear black (a common color) and gold isn’t unreasonable. In fact, it might make it easier on them to choose what they’re wearing to the wedding. Of course, you will need to temper your expectations—it’s always possible that not everyone will show up wearing black or gold, or they may choose not to attend so you have to determine whether you’re OK with that. At the end of the day, I don’t think that the people who care about you and want to celebrate this occasion w/ you will mind very much.

I would not think anything of it. People dictate the type of dress all of the time. Some wedding require formal attire. One I went too required casual clothing and short for the guys. The bride and groom wore a sundress and shorts and obviously didn’t want others to be over dressed for the casual event. As long at what your asking is easily attainable, for example everyone wear black or grey or some other colour. It should be easy for them to follow.

View Quoted Comment Thanks Meghan ur the only one understood what I was saying thank a lot for the encouraging words

View Quoted Comment Thanks that was my point exactly I just ask to wear black or gold but everyone trying to act as if I’m controlling and that’s definitely not the case!!! Thanks for your opinion

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It seems aggressive to call etiquette "classist," especially here when everyone is saying etiquette is to let people wear whatever they want. By creating more requirements, you're actually creating the possibility of people having to spend money to buy other things, creating more pressure to spend money people may not have, which seems closer to "classist" behavior than just letting people wear what they want. Etiquette differs by culture, yes, but to call it "classist" comes off as judgmental.

To address OP's question, I'd think this was overboard if you picked colors that no one reasonably would have (so the black option makes this a nonissue) or if you're going to kick people out if they don't comply. Removing people from the event is rude and not focusing on the whole point of celebrating with loved ones. In my family, this would be seen as too much, but if in your circle, it's being perceived well, then I hope it works for you!

View Quoted Comment No problem! Best of luck, Sada! At the end of the day, we’re all just trying to accomplish the same thing—enjoy what is supposed to be one of the best day of our lives by marrying our spouse by our own standards!

View Quoted Comment Exactly best of luck to u as well 😘

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Aw, don't change your dress color. Wear whatever color you want to be married in! Red is just fine if that's the color you like for your dress.

As to the guests, I see people's point that you can't tell adults how to dress, but I also see the point that they will know months out and can plan accordingly. I don't own anything black or gold, but could find something to wear if I knew far enough out. I guess I just don't mind being asked to wear a certain color scheme if the couple is going for a certain look or theme.