GroomsWOMAN!

My husband's mom was his best woman. She wore a black dress and her corsage nd stood up bedside him. It is def doable.

Thats a neat idea! If the groomsmen are wearing black suits/tuxes, she should wear a long black dress. She should represent his side of the aisle, not match your ladies. Make it clear shes female (no masculine suits) but she should match the other groomsmen.

I think thats an amazing idea by the way. Im beginning to wonder if my FH is going to do the same thing..... which now might

I agree.. have her wear the colors of the suit or main color of the groomsmen, with a corsage.

Yeah I was thinking grey tux's and a grey dress? I don't want her to feel masculine at all! The grey's probably won't match though....

If you want her to be more obviously a groomswoman, maybe consider nice pants to match the groomsmens colors and a nice shirt? Or a pantsuit? Just because she's in pants doesnt have to mean she looks masculine. And as long as your grey's are both in the same neighborhood (both dark grey or light grey) and both work with all the other colors of your wedding I think it'd be fine.

My groom is a woman but she is wearing a button-down and vest so that's probably not helpful unless your FH's friend would be down with dressing like one of the guys lol

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I think it's great that FH has a groomswoman, I wouldn't match her with your girls though. What other colors are the men wearing besides grey? Maybe she could wear that color of a dress rather than grey dress.

Hmmm grey and teal (which is bridesmaid's color). I don't know for sure yet Ashley because we haven't gotten them just yet! Our bouquets of flowers are going to be autumn: deep reds, pumpkin oranges, etc. I can always have her wear a red dress? That might be too much though!

I think a long dress in the same color as the tuxes would look great. And a corsage the same color as the boutonnieres would keep it feminine while letting her blend in amongst the boys. I am having a Best Woman or Butch Bridesmaid as she calls herself.. Lol my sister is a lesbian and she hasn't worn a dress in about 20 years or so. I am putting her in a pants and a vest that is the same color as the BM dresses. I think what you guys are doing is very cool! Good Luck!

My FH has a grooms woman and I have 2 brides men...in total I have 2 guys and 2 girls standing with me and he has 3 guys and 1 girl standing with him...we're having all of the guys wear the same thing and all of the girls wear the same thing just stand on our respective sides...

For simplicity, I might put her in a BM dress, carrying the BM bouquet (she has to carry something, right?), but have her stand on FH's side. I think it's great and should be more common to have your special people stand with you, regardless of their genders.

Ive seen this she wore a black and white dress (black for the tux and white to match their shirts) it was pretty sweet!

I've also seen one where a girl wore a tux and man did she rock it!

I was my bestfriends Best WoMan I got a custom laylored suit so I matched the guys but didnt look boxy. My FH is also having a Groomswoman and we are thinking of just having her wear a dress in the accent color that the bow ties are going to be for the boys and a basic style and let her pick what she likes best fit wise as an option or wearing a suit like the rest of the guys

Really, you can do it however you like. Some alternatives I've seen:

* She wears a dress the same color as the GM's ties or vests.

* She wears a dress the same color as the GM's tuxes

* She wears a dress in the same colors as the GM's tuxes and shirts (e.g., grey and white if the GM are wearing grey tuxes with white shirts).

* She wears a tux.

* She wears a dress the same color as the BM's dresses, but in a different style.

* She wears a dress the same style as the BM's dresses, but in a different color.

* She wears the same dress as the BMs, but just stands on the groom's side.

Just do what works for your FH and you!

I think it would be nice if she wore the same colour dress as the suits and had a wrist corsage similar to the guy's bout's. You could try to get the same dress as your bridesmaid but in the grey to match the guys suits.

I personally would also invite her to have her hair & make-up done with the bridesmaids if you are getting them done professionally.

My good friend was a groomswoman in someone else's wedding. She wore a structured black gown with a white collar, think something like this. http://www.ecrater.com/p/4009966/betsy-adam-black-white-velvety?gps=1 So it looked kind of like the tux look.

She could wear a dress the same color as the groomsmens suits and a belt that matches the color of the BM dresses? And a corsage to match the boutonierres.

I LOVE this!!!!

I wouldn't put her in anything so obviously different (red), I think a dress that is the same style as bridesmaids but as close to the same shade of grey as the guys with a matching corsage- no bouquet. I would also ask her which she prefers to wear, a dress or pantsuit-again close to same shade as groomsmen

My FH wanted his best female friend to stand up there with him along with his best man and two groomsmen, but this was the one thing i said no, hell no, absolutely not. Most of his wants i can gracefully concede on, but not this. Ive met the girl, she is very sweet and lovable and i dont mind hanging out with her, but i will not have a woman on his side. Sorry i just cant do it. I made him pick another guy.

We are deciding to go non-traditional. We aren't going to do things just because it's traditional and "we have to" -- this makes it so much more "our" wedding! No dancing, grooms-woman, no unity candle/sand, etc. Simple but classy. THANKS EVERYONE! Great ideas!