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Melissa
Beginner May 2010

groomsmen and bridesmaids that are married to each other

Melissa, on April 22, 2010 at 3:58 PM Posted in Planning 0 22

I have to married couples in my wedding. 2 of my bridesmaids are married to 2 of my hubby's groomsmen. My question is do they have to be paired together? Is it ok for them to be lined up differently and walk with someone else? Is it ok that when they get introduced at the reception that they are introduced with who they walked with? I am printing my programs and do I have to list them together on there as well? What is the proper way for this?

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Latest activity by Me , on August 10, 2010 at 3:54 PM
  • cbjk
    Super April 2010
    cbjk ·
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    I had a married couple.. the girl walked up with my brother and the dude with my best friend. No biggie I don't think. Not sure the "proper" way to do it. I say it's your day, do whatever you want!

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  • JJ
    Master December 2009
    JJ ·
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    I think you can line em up how you want and pair them up accordingly back down the aisle.

    But for the introductions, the husband and wives should walk in together, don't ya think? They don't need to be introduced as "Mr. and Mrs. Andrew Jackson". It could just be "Andrew and Betty Jackson. Save the Mr. and Mrs. for you and your new hubby.

    Or just keep it the same way as in the ceremony.

    But the husband and wives should be able to sit together during dinner--that's more comfortable for them.

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  • FMS, the barefoot wife!
    Master August 2010
    FMS, the barefoot wife! ·
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    I think it's fine if they're paired seperately!

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  • 0
    Super May 2010
    05.01.2010 ·
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    We are pairing most of the together but it just worked out that way. We put our wedding party in order of how long we have known them. However the best man is married to one of my bridemaid's and they will not walk together because she is not my maid of honor. However like JJ said they are sitting next to each other at dinner.

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  • Starsteph84
    Super November 2010
    Starsteph84 ·
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    I have one couple in my wedding, the best man and the matron of honor. It just worked out that way so they are walking together. But its not a big deal to have them apart. Its up to you.

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  • ladylee
    Master June 2010
    ladylee ·
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    I would probably tend to pair people by height lol. If there's no major differences then I'd just pair the couples together. Let them hold hands down the aisle. It can be a very enjoyable/loving experience for them too.

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  • Ashley
    Expert August 2010
    Ashley ·
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    I agree that you can mix them however you want so long as everyone is comfortable with it! My FH's best man is married to a bridesmaid, so of course they can't be introduced together or walk down together. Otherwise, I would at least introduce them together. Again, do what you want to!

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  • Mrs Danie
    Master October 2010
    Mrs Danie ·
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    I think you can pair them up however you want. On our programs Im listing everyone seperately, so you can always do that. You could either introduce them at the reception as Jon and Jane Smith or introduce them individually.

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  • R-Lynn
    Expert October 2010
    R-Lynn ·
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    I say line them up how you want to. We have a married couple and a dating couple in our wedding party and I know the married couple wont walk together because one is the best man and the wife is not my MOH. And the couple, I'm not going to try to put them together, if it ends up that way then so be it. It shouldnt matter if they arent announced together, its not their wedding and I'm sure most of your guests know they are married.

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  • mellissamarie
    Super July 2010
    mellissamarie ·
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    I think it's completely up to you. Personally, if they are the BM or MOH, then they're paired with whoever the other one is...however, if they are just bm and gm, then I would pair them together as you can put them in any order and it's very thoughtful to let them walk together.

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  • The Potters
    Master September 2009
    The Potters ·
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    IMHO, I would pair them as couples. I think I might be a little upset if I was in a wedding and so was my hubby and we didn't get to walk down together. Maybe that is just me.

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  • Laura-Jean
    Devoted June 2010
    Laura-Jean ·
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    I think that the choice is all urs but it would be easier for them to be together? But if they're ok with being with someone else then that's great. Can I ask you why you don't want them together? Just curious lol.

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  • .
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    I say do it how you want it. I have a dating couple in my WP and the guy is the best man and the girl is just one of my bridesmaid.

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  • Melissa
    Beginner May 2010
    Melissa ·
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    They all will be sitting seperatly as well at our head table so I guess it really dosnt matter

    @ Laura-Jean Its just the way i lined them up that they didnt go together only 1 couple ended up together but my daughter is one of my MOH and she is walking with y hubbys BM which is married to one of the girls and from there the line is just messed up they dont go together and they are lined up according to the closest to me...and my husbands the same way so be it I guess thanks for all who commented

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  • Deirdre
    VIP November 2010
    Deirdre ·
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    When my fiancé and I were in my sisters wedding we were not paired up but that is probably because I was moh and he was a groomsman not best man. It would have been nice if we could to walk down the aisle together, would be nice pic too. We have 3 couples in our wedding parties and they are all going to be with one another walking down, if they can walk together than I say "why not?" they would appreciate it I am sure. Just a thoughtSmiley smile

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  • Shell
    Master June 2009
    Shell ·
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    My sis was my MOH and her hubby was one of our GM, not best man. we did not pair them and they were fine. if you have an order to your bridal party and thats not how it lines up then dont pair them. My Brother in law was paired with my 2 little sisters.

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  • K
    Dedicated October 2010
    Kris ·
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    My sis is my MOH, FH bro is Best Man, and my sisters husband is also a GM- so my sis will be walking in with FH bro and her hubby will be walking in my one of my BM- I dont think its a big deal at all- usually MOH and Best Man walk in together so....

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  • W
    Master June 2010
    wowjunkie ·
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    I think you can do it, however, I would personally not. IMO it isn't about height or whatever, it's that they're a pair - like FH and I are a pair. It would be awkward for me and FH if we were walking down with strangers when we could be walking together - even though we would do it if the bride wanted (it's not worth a fit, but I wouldn't be happy about it). Your best bet is to ask the couples and see how they feel - they may not even care.

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  • K
    Dedicated October 2010
    Kris ·
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    If my sis and his bro werent MOH and Best Man I would be having her walk with her hubby. Basically she only has to walk into the reception with Best Man and then she can go sit with her hubby. Im looking forward to seeing FSIL face- my sisters WHOLE family is in my wedding - Sis, hubby and both kids- whereas only my FBIL and his daughter are in it- not his b*tch wife. Im pretty sure she is p*ssed about that-hahhaahah!!

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  • Pumpkin
    VIP October 2010
    Pumpkin ·
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    We're not having our attendants walk together just for this reason. One of them is married and two of them are dating, but they won't be paired up that way so I'm having them walk separately both ways. I felt weird asking the married one to escort my sister-in-law.

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