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Beginner November 2018

Groom got cold feet

Maria, on August 18, 2017 at 2:40 PM

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I need advice. Me and my fiancé have been together for your years together and two engage, I set the date for the wedding ,and he said its was ok. So I started planning the venue for the reception, I even get two vendors answers me for appointment for the venue, so as two days ago I told him we need...

I need advice. Me and my fiancé have been together for your years together and two engage, I set the date for the wedding ,and he said its was ok. So I started planning the venue for the reception, I even get two vendors answers me for appointment for the venue, so as two days ago I told him we need to sit and set the budget for the wedding.

And he tells me oh you are going too fast, we have a year to plan everything, and later he says it wasn't the right time to get married, that we didn't have a house, yet, where to live, and that he prefers have a house and then get married. I'm devastated I love him very much and that hurts me, but, I don't want a man marry me, because he felt pressure to do it , has to come from him. Am I right ?

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  • TackoLover
    Expert October 2018
    TackoLover ·
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    I wish this forum had the ability to quote people (and ignore others).

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  • FutureMrsHill
    Expert April 2018
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    I'm shocked that you told him to bend his knee. I don't understand why you're in a rush. Things will happen when it's time. It seems like FH wants security before marriage.

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  • Maria
    Master June 2018
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    I was just thinking of danish and polish women I've met named Maria. Hope we're right that Spanish is her native language. My apologies if not. A lot of filipino people have Hispanic names but don't speak Spanish.

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  • FutureMrs.L
    Master September 2018
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    I'm in agreement with Becca. Financing a ring with such a low income was not a smart move. A house is not a priority right now. Becoming financially stable is absolutely a priority.

    Forcing him to propose was completely not ok. If I told FH that he would have ended things and walked away. I'd return the ring to the store if at all possible. If he's not ready, forcing it will lead to heartbreak.

    Don't be in a rush, let it happen. How long have you all been together?!

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  • mtall912
    Super October 2018
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    Yes you really need to talk. Seems like he's not ready. Maybe do some counseling to help him realize why if he doesn't know

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  • Hahnsolo
    Super March 2018
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    What I'm curious about is why the hell you moved in with him after only a month.. I get there is stuff with the father but this actually seems quite stupid. That being said, how long have you been together? You say you are 26 but seem very immature and maybe need to grow up some too

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  • FutureMrs.L
    Master September 2018
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    FUtureMrsHahn I'm always amazed when people say they moved in together that quickly. It's also worrisome. You don't know that person well enough, you hardly know them at all after a month!

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