Groom got cold feet

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Omg, did i just read this?......................

Wow, wow, wow.... OP - this is NOT A GOOD LOOK...

don't mean to judge, but you basically forced him to propose.

OP How old are you?

26

I know I messed up

OP - maybe you can just postpone your wedding and wait until he is ready. wish i had a better advice, but i don't. all i know is, you cant pressure someone to do something they are not ready to do... its not genuine that way.

Ok so you made him buy you jewelry you couldn't afford and propose and NOW you don't want him to Marry you just because you said so?

Sorry hunny but it's a little

Too late for that one

Well he says he love me, and that he do want to marry him. But not now. When? I have no idea ,maybe in 5 years.

You are twenty-six years old and you let a salesperson talk you into buying an engagement ring resulting in a forced proposal on the spot?

I can't even today.

You both need to sit down and prioritize.

Also, if you can't get financed for a piece of jewelry you may want to fix your credit/financial situation before delving into the world of wedding planning. Even small weddings come at a cost.

I would stop planning and just live your life. He basically got tricked into getting engaged and I'm sure that makes him feel some kind of way. You might even want couples counseling because at this rate and with this lack of communication, I wouldn't be surprised if the relationship didn't last.

I'm team "piss or get off the pot". If I was in this situation, I would probably be thinking hard about if I was wasting my time or not

I have a feeling there's more to this story...

feel like a lot more happened at the jewelry store

O&S #D&B lol

So if that is what the bible says it sounds like you need to start by moving back home or something... Second, pleas please please take a money management course "refinancing jewelry?" Is that really a thing?

On a serious note, you guys have a lot of talking to do and you should def wait until you are both on the same page to get married.

Well he was there too, I didn't force anybody he is an adult, I didn't put a knife oh his throat and I do have a good credit score.

Guys seriously you are making me feel terrible right now

No one is trying to make you feel terrible but dang boo read what you're putting out there. This situation is by no means normal.

ETA: misunderstood part of story

And if you had good credit you wouldn't have issues financing (or refinancing?) jewelry (or jewel).

People on here can be very blunt but it almost always comes from a good place. Your story is very alarming. Neither of you should be pressuring the other to get married - it should be a mutual commitment to each other. If I read correctly, you've been engaged for two years? It seems like if he didn't love you, he would have called the whole thing off by now. I think a long tough conversation needs to be had so you can figure out where you both stand. Then you and him can make a decision on if it's in the same direction or not. None of us can tell you what to do.

@Tamara, right!?

OP, so you went to the jewelry store to *finance* jewelry (I'm assuming you mean finance and not refinance because you can only refinance something you already have)? So basically you wanted to buy jewelry with money you don't have. When they turned you down, you thought it'd be appropriate to ask your bf to pay for this jewelry and he agreed?? Did you tell him you got turned down for financing (ie they didn't think you were a good candidate to pay them back)? And then, instead of getting jewelry that you were *supposedly* going to pay him back for, you got him to buy jewelry that he had to cover the cost for, with no warning, and no preparation??

Woof.