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Expert September 2014

Go fund me for a wedding? UPDATE: it got worse!

Blue one 4, on August 12, 2014 at 4:12 PM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 84

A person from high school recently got engaged she immediately reached out to me to see how much I would charge to do her hair for the weekend. Then the next day she set up a gofundme account for her wedding " asking for donations in leu of gifts at the wedding." She has proceeded to share it every...

A person from high school recently got engaged she immediately reached out to me to see how much I would charge to do her hair for the weekend. Then the next day she set up a gofundme account for her wedding " asking for donations in leu of gifts at the wedding." She has proceeded to share it every 2 hours on Facebook for the last 4 days. I'm not one to lecture on etiquette but this particular situation really struck me as slightly beyond the level of acceptability... I know I have been very blessed with that my finances did allow me to have a wonderful wedding but even if they didn't i was already planning a court house ceremony followed by a backyard reception as a backup and would never have fathomed asking for money from anyone...

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  • Sally
    Super October 2014
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    Ren brings up a good point: TRIPLE tacky because she is A) asking for money period B) asking for money to pay for a wedding before it even happens (meaning, you're just choosing not to live within your financial means and expecting others to pay),

    and C) HELLO! Don't openly talk about your wedding on your Facebook page! What about everyone who won't be invited? I have ONCE mentioned my wedding on Facebook (when I was so stoked after I ordered my dress) of course I'm not including when we got engaged, but even then a few days after I realized maybe that was a bit much.

    GROSSSSSS

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  • Mrs. A & J
    Master December 2014
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    Hahahaha her wording cracks me up!!!! Like you'll never use plates, cups, etc, but yes.....your wedding day will go on forever.

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  • Emily381
    Devoted October 2016
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    @Ren I don't know the specific ins and outs of Honeyfund but I was able to print out like a gift certificate looking thing and was able to ad a personal note to it and then attach cash or check so that it goes directly to my friend. While it's true she may not actually use it for ziplining - I still find it a better alternative to just handing her a check.

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  • Private User
    Master March 2014
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    I wonder how small her friends list is going to get after this...lol

    I would delete her off of FB, I have little patience for people like that. I can imagine at least SOMEONE whether friend or family has told her it's a no-go but she clearly isn't listening. I wondering how long it will take her to figure out that she won't get a dime.

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  • Carr
    Devoted June 2017
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    For curiosity sake I just had to go to the gofundme site. It's amazing how many funds are set up for weddings.

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  • OG Ruth
    Master October 2015
    OG Ruth ·
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    WOW! I can't believe the nerve this girl has! If she wants to have a "fancy" wedding she should be putting money aside for it. Not asking people for money to pay for it! This is unbelievable! If she can't afford to have her dream wedding, there's always city hall or justice of the peace.

    It's one thing when someone falls onto hard times (like Rigby's situation) & people reach out to help, but to flat out ask for people to fund your wedding is ridiculous!

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  • OldFashionedBride
    Super November 2014
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    I know someone who did a GoFundMe to ask for money ($200) for a vacation. My initial response was, "what? you have a job--work more and stop going to Starbucks every day!" sigh.

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  • B
    Expert September 2014
    Blue one 4 ·
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    She just posted this after no one gave .... Really?!


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  • Celia Milton
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    Right. No one cares. Elope.

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  • Finally mrs.jkr
    Master June 2025
    Finally mrs.jkr ·
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    Wow seriously? She sounds super whiney.... If that's how she acts, I feel she may not be ready for marriage. Although, I don't know her

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  • BoriNena89
    Dedicated May 2016
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    Omggg noooooo thats beyond tacky that's a whole nother level. I saw an old hs friend who had one for a honeymoon... I saw it but didnt think much of it. It didnt bombard my fb newsfeed and people donated, so w.e. floats ur boat but i wont donate. How is it everyone elses fault about the venue... Wtf

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  • BoriNena89
    Dedicated May 2016
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    She can get a second job... Priorities woman smh

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  • KM
    Master March 2015
    KM ·
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    Seriously...please tell me you told her off

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  • Annael25
    VIP May 2016
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    I actually cringed reading this. She's making an ass out of herself. She must be pretty oblivious to think this is acceptable. I would NEVER think to ask people for money directly. I would LOVE if people gave me money instead of gifts, but I am not going to ask. That's incredibly tacky. We're even thinking about putting "your presence is gift enough" or whatever so people don't feel obligated.

    She's the one who is insisting on getting married right now, so it's her responsibility to find the money. My FH and I are paying for our entire wedding. We've had to make sacrifices to afford certain things and we're okay with that. It's all about priorities. If she can't afford the wedding, she should think about eloping or at least having a longer engagement.

    Wow, crazy girl.

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  • Susan
    Master March 2015
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    Here's your sign!


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  • Della
    VIP July 2015
    Della ·
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    I generally believe that the word bridezilla is used too regularly and for things that aren't nearly 'zilla ish. This chick has all the makings for a true bridezilla though.

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  • D
    VIP July 2015
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    Smh...this bitch....

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  • Carr
    Devoted June 2017
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    I think she posted that to try and guilt people into giving her money. She has 2 choices : postpone the wedding or visit the court house.

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  • Elle
    Master March 2015
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    She hasnt even been engaged that long! What the hell?

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  • OMW
    Master August 2013
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    Uhhh…. huh? Seriously? Please tell me SOMEONE put her in her place.

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