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Gifts for readers at ceremony??

Alexandria, on September 11, 2018 at 2:15 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 11
Is this a thing? Should we buy gifts for the 2 people who are reading at the church?
If so, any ideas on what to buy (for and and woman)?


Latest activity by Jenna, on September 12, 2018 at 12:50 PM
  • WED18
    July 1993
    WED18 ·
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    I don't think it's necessary but when I did a reading for my nephew I received a glass decorative cross to hang on my wall.

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  • Jen
    VIP July 2018
    Jen ·
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    I didn't get a gift for my reader (though now i am wondering if I should have - LOL). I did send her a nice card thanking her afterward. I've been a reader before and don't recall receiving a gift so perhaps that's why I didn't think of it.

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  • Kelly
    Legend October 2022
    Kelly ·
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    Hi Alexandria! That it totally up to you! In the past, I've seen that most people just write them a nice thank you card afterwards! But if you have it in your budget, maybe a small gift like a gift card or something nice like that!

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  • Happy Hedgie
    VIP September 2018
    Happy Hedgie ·
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    I think a small thank you gift is appropriate. Our siblings are each doing a reading at our wedding and we are getting them each something small. For his sister we got her some small travel size lotions and body washes and a nice leather luggage tag since she is flying back to China 3 days after the wedding and can't really pack any bulky items. For my brother, we picked him up an expansion to a card game he enjoys.

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  • Kristen
    VIP August 2018
    Kristen ·
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    You don't HAVE to get them anything but it would be a nice gesture. Maybe a bracelet or necklace? There are so many affordable options.

    I got my bridesmaids zodiac necklaces in their thank you gift - they're super cute and only cost $8 each from Etsy!

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  • Munchkin9218
    Master September 2018
    Munchkin9218 ·
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    We got our two readers, and my friend who sang during the ceremony a bottle of wine each as a thank you (and H bought his uncle a bottle of vodka he likes since he isn't a wine drinker). I think something small like this or a gift card and a thank you note is enough.

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  • Alexandria
    Devoted January 2019
    Alexandria ·
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    Thank you for the ideas ladies!
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  • ISaidHallYes
    VIP November 2018
    ISaidHallYes ·
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    I think it is a nice idea! We got two of our readers diffraction goggles hahah although that is a very odd gift so not sure if that is helpful! The other reader we are getting a bottle of wine for with a thank you card!

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  • V
    Super April 2019
    Valerie ·
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    I've been a reader 3 times (my 3 roommates in college were guys senior year so its how they involved me in their wedding) and I have always received a gift at the rehearsal dinner. All were like $20 (and they got their bridesmaids gifts of about $80-120) of some sort of thing. One was a set of frames with the roommates over the years, one was a necklace (it was NOT my taste at all.... don't buy people jewelry unless you are positive you know what they like - some people do think alex and ani bracelets are ugly...sorry mini rant over haha), and the other was just a dunkin giftcard because I love coffee (I by far consider this the best and most useful of the three gifts.)

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  • FutureMrs.Jacobs
    Super October 2018
    FutureMrs.Jacobs ·
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    I think that is a great idea!

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  • Jenna
    Super October 2019
    Jenna ·
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    You can give them something if you'd like to but it's not necessary at all. I had a small role in a Havdalah serivce at a (Jewish) wedding last summer and they didn't get me a thank you gift. I honestly hadn't even thought about it until just now. They verbally said thank you and while I think a thank you note/card might be appropriate, anything above that is extra and totally up to you.

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