Getting married on Memorial Day

I don't think it's disrespectful- I would make sure to honor those who (have) served in some way during the reception though. I think it's a nice gesture actually- but I'm a little biased on this since I work with the DoD.

We have 14 weddings booked for the weekend, including Monday. It's never been an issue as far as I know.

Isn't it a little late to be asking? I wouldn't think it's disrespectful - maybe they're just more surprised that it's on the last day of the long weekend. Harder for people who have to travel.

Not everyone has off for Memorial Day, some people will have plans already, some people will be unable to travel. If you're okay with that, then go for it. But shouldn't you have picked a date and sent invitations by now?

I'm getting married on Memorial Day next year, but for completely different reasons. We are both in theatre and traditionally the only dark day in theatre is Monday, so that is when all of our friends (and most of our wedding party) is off from work. But obviously most people in our family have more traditional M-F jobs, so we chose a holiday Monday to accommodate as many people as possible. Also Monday has always been our day off, so Mondays are kinda like our day together anyway.

@LoveinDC, you're right. Not everyone has Memorial Day off. But not everyone has every Saturday off either. :o)

I would say the best people to ask are your friends and family. If they are ok with it then I don't see why it should be a problem. Memorial Day travels so it doesn't land in you anniversary every year.

Yes, I sent my invites out over five months ago. I'm simply asking to get a consensus. Our friends and family are totally fine with it. Like I said, the vets in our family are all well over 60 yrs of age and we are not close. I'm just curious to know how everyone else feels, like is it frowned upon?

I think more people have issues with the fact that's it's a long weekend and I'd rather take those 3 days I have off to do something else. I'm in a wedding Columbus day weekend (that Sunday) and it's a 3 day weekend for me and my FH. He's constantly bitching that our weekend is ruined. But then again a lot of people don't have the luxury like we do.

But yeah, I am very curious, OP. Are you just second guessing your decision and wanting some comforting feedback? We assume that with less than a month to your wedding date that you have already booked your venue and sent out your invites. Are you getting a lot of declines or something that is provoking this question now?

ETA: You answered my question while I typed. Haha.

It was really important for us to have a short wedding if we were doing it in the day time. I've been to some day weddings that resemble a 9-5 job, and they drag for so so long. I figured 12-3 wouldn't take up much of anyone's day, and they could still go on to celebrate Veterans Day if they wanted, or enjoy their 3 day weekend.

While I'm not really second guessing myself, never in a million years did I ever imagine id be getting married on a MONDAY! If it baffles me I'm sure it baffles others in some way.

I'm grateful, though, that we got a spot.

OMG finally a date twin!!! My fiancé is a veteran so the date is special for him and I also think it will be a good way for him not to forget our anniversary ha. My family is flying from Mexico and we are not having many OOTG so I think It will be fine.

I don't think that is why people are taken back. I won't go to weddings on holiday weekends. We have standing plans for memorial day, 4th of July, and labor day weekends.

Sorry OP...I mixed up your original post with the one who is getting married next year (thought it was your response in looking quickly). I don't see why it should be a problem at all. I'm getting married on a Wednesday, but we aren't doing a traditional style wedding.

You are so close...enjoy!!!

It might be harder to get everyone together on Memorial Day because people usually have their own thing going but I truly hope they spend it with you & your FH.

It's Memorial Day not Veterans Day Op

I think it just depends! Honestly I'd rather have it on the Monday because I could take Fri-Sun to go to the cabin. In MN that's one of the first weekends lots of people get up to the cabin so it may deter many from coming. But having at at the end of the holiday weekend is better than in the middle

@Beutivant - True! Some people just get into the mindset of "it's a holiday so no one will have work" and I wanted to put in a gentle reminder that it might not necessarily be the case Holiday weddings can be a catch 22 because the reasons that make them convenient are the exact reasons they can be inconvenient.

^I agree with that. Traveling is more expensive. Traffic is worse. Uh. For every reason it was convenient, I feel there are two for it being inconvenient. In the end, no matter what day we chose, we knew people were going to have to travel and take off work. For us, in the end, Memorial Day was the day the least number of people would, so that's what we went with. I get what I call nervous poop cramps at least once a day whenever I think about who will actually be able to come. I want all of our nearest and dearest there, but I just know that isn't possible. It doesn't make it an easy pill to swallow though.

I think it's fine, then again I'm getting married on May 28

I think it's fine. Don't worry about what people think. Just enjoy your day! Less than a month!!!!