Rachel
Beginner May 2021

Getting Married for Insurance

Rachel, on February 28, 2020 at 3:36 PM

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Hello! Please, no judgement or harshness. My fiance and I are contemplating getting married at the courthouse for insurance in March or April but have our wedding date already set for May of 2021. He turns 26 in April and his current employer does not offer health insurance but mine does. We aren't...

Hello!

Please, no judgement or harshness.

My fiance and I are contemplating getting married at the courthouse for insurance in March or April but have our wedding date already set for May of 2021. He turns 26 in April and his current employer does not offer health insurance but mine does. We aren't planning on exchanging rings or vows until our May 2021 date. I do understand that if we get married in March or April that we will be legally married but I still want to have the ceremony and reception next May. I've read a good amount on this and people seem to be very mixed from the viewpoint of "do whatever you want" to "that's dishonest and rude". I am more on the fence about this as I want the traditional wedding experience (bachelorette party, bridal shower, etc.) and I believe he wants the same for himself. On the other hand, I don't think he's thought about this as thoroughly as I have (hello anxiety/overthinking). It is not my intention to lie to anyone or withhold information, but I also don't want anyone to make a big fuss about this and kinda just want to keep it between our parents and close friends (essentially our bridal party). I'm not trying to upset anyone or ruffle any feathers, please be kind. Thank you!

68 Comments

  • P
    September 2020
    Paula ·
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    Hey I think you can do whatever you want to do! I hope you have an awesome amazing wedding 👰, don’t ever care what anyone else thinks, this is about you and your other! You have every right to do whatever you want, have a great day!!!!
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  • S
    Just Said Yes May 2020
    Sheila ·
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    That is a very good thing
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  • Andrea
    Just Said Yes September 2020
    Andrea ·
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    My fiancé’s employer offered a “domestic partner” clause to cover same sex couples that couldn’t be married in KY. We are a 100% heterosexual couple but fell into this category bc we lived together for over a year. That may be something for you to look into
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  • Taylor
    VIP October 2020
    Taylor ·
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    We're attending a wedding celebration in May for friends that did this. They're not doing a ceremony based on my understanding, only a reception but I haven't given much thought about the fact that they're already married. To me, their wedding is in May and I am happily attending to celebrate my friends. Don't overthink it. Do what's best for the two of youSmiley smile

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  • Taylor
    Beginner November 2020
    Taylor ·
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    If I were in that situation, I would go ahead and become officially married. Often times, couples are officially married a few weeks in advanced due to going to the court house and getting their Marriage license. So, you can officially become married but still have the ceremony, reception, bachelorette party, ect..
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  • Michelle
    Just Said Yes August 2022
    Michelle ·
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    We are doing the same thing. We aren't telling anyone except our officiant since he won't have to get certified. We don't care about being married in the eyes of the state. What matters to us is being married in the eyes of our friends and family. The legal part is just to get him on my insurance. The friends/family part is what's important.
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  • Emily
    Expert September 2020
    Emily ·
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    There are *definitely* some here that have their panties in a bunch - bet they are also super fun at parties. Smiley xd

    People are acting like she's throwing a baby shower for herself before she's pregnant or something. If I still give a gift to people who get engaged and married within a year (and then get divorced in another year - smh), y'all should have to support the people who are married but want to celebrate with you. "Lying" about a wedding....get out of here with this nonsense.

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  • K
    Just Said Yes May 2022
    Katie ·
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    That’s extremely rude. Sometimes people run into obstacles and have to do it this way. Health insurance is extremely important, especially right now.
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