Lynnie
WeddingWire Administrator October 2016

Garter Toss - Do or Ditch?

Lynnie, on February 4, 2020 at 11:05 AM

Posted in Wedding Reception 98

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Are you going to toss the garter at your wedding reception or did this tradition not make the cut?


Are you doing or ditching the garter toss?


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Back to the Beginning: Do or Ditch?

98 Comments

  • Krys
    Dedicated October 2020
    Krys ·
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    Fiance wants to but I think it's so weird. Ditch.

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  • AntiPasta
    Just Said Yes May 2021
    AntiPasta ·
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    Definitely doing garter toss! I have a cool idea I came up with. My FH is a fireman and I'm going to get a pair of his bunker boots, so when he tries to get it he'll see the boots. Lol!
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  • Day
    Devoted July 2021
    Day ·
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    Ditch for sure. Have you ever heard someone saying they’re looking forward to the garter toss? I think not.
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  • Harmony
    Dedicated June 2021
    Harmony ·
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    My fiancé and I both agreed that we do not want to do it.

    It has been fun to read all the other no's 😂

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  • Breanna
    Devoted September 2020
    Breanna ·
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    Yeah no I think we'll be ditching this. It's always been a strange tradition to me.
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  • Desiree
    Super March 2020
    Desiree ·
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    Nope - big pass. I would feel way too awkward doing this...

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  • Tara
    VIP November 2016
    Tara ·
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    We did the garter toss! It goes along with the bouquet toss and I'm in favor of keeping these traditions alive. They're silly and fun and people look forward to them. I do believe in keeping the garter toss classy, no head under the dress or using teeth or anything that feels inappropriate like that, but it's fun to do.

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  • Anna
    VIP October 2020
    Anna ·
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    Technically I’m not tossing the garter, but yes, we’ll do this one.
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  • Jessica
    Beginner October 2020
    Jessica ·
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    Havent decided...but more than likely
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  • Lunajay
    Super August 2022
    Lunajay ·
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    I loved the idea and would like to do it but we aren't doing the big reception, its more of a small dinner.

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  • Sweetness
    March 2022
    Sweetness ·
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    Ditching. Just ick on all fronts to me.

    I will wear a garter though, but my FH knows nothing about it. So that will be a surprise for him on the night. Smiley winking

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  • Taran
    Expert September 2020
    Taran ·
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    We're ditching it, we've also decided to forgo the bouquet toss as well

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  • Jana
    Master October 2022
    Jana ·
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    More than likely skip it. I've only seen one time as a guest and the only ones who participated were the groom's single brothers.

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  • Vale
    Dedicated October 2021
    Vale ·
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    Ditching, absolutely. When I was around 10 years old, I caught the bouquet at my aunt's wedding and a grown man caught the garter. Having a man I barely knew slide a garter up to just above my knee made me feel a bit weird, but everyone thought it was "cute" and totally innocent. Looking back on it now, I would have NEVER allowed that to happen. Also, at other weddings when a guy has to put the garter on a woman he barely knows, often it can be awkward and uncomfortable for one or both.


    What it symbolizes, to me, is male sexual conquest over a woman. She who catches the flowers from the "deflowered" bride must then be subjected to ceremonial sexual conquest by a man who caught the garter worn by the "conquered" bride.
    It's outdated, unnecessary, and uncomfortable. That's not happening at my wedding.
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  • Mary
    Dedicated December 2020
    Mary ·
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    It makes me cringe. I have been to so many weddings were parents have had to cover children's eyes at this part. It can be so nasty, and it really isn't the time or the place, in my opinion.

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  • Squeezy Bean
    Devoted March 2024
    Squeezy Bean ·
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    Whilst I will be wearing a garter, only I will about know that... Until the wedding night. 😉


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  • Michelle
    Rockstar October 2022
    Michelle ·
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    On the fence leaning toward keeping it but it will be tasteful. No stripper shows as are on Youtube and definitely not putting it on the bouquet catcher..never heard of such a thing before.
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  • Emilia
    Expert June 2019
    Emilia ·
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    Ditch, not for me !

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