Future sister in law as bridesmaid?

That's a hard one. I'm having the same issue. I say no but in my case if I don't it will cause drama. Which makes me really not want to include her. Guess that makes me kind of mean.

I have one FSIL as a bridesmaid, one that is singing me down the aisle, and one that is helping with hair. Maybe you could find another way for her to be involved if you aren't comfortable with her being a bridesmaid?

It's really up to you, I don't really know my fsil very well so I asked her to be a bm to get closer with her. If you want her to be a bridesmaid then you can have uneven sides, or maybe as Rashaunda said, find another way that she could be involved with the wedding.

I am in a similar situation. FH & I are having a very small wedding party as well and only having 2 attendants each. I chose 2 of my very best friends that are really like sisters to me (I'm an only child). FH has a sister but I'm not including her in the BP because, although FH and I have been together for 6 years, she & I have never been close at all and we don't even talk outside of family stuff. This did cause some drama with his family but it's important to me to have my 2 friends stand up for me as we've been through a lot together and we're WAY closer than FH's sister & I are. I say do what you feel is right especially if adding a thrid person is going to cause stress. You can find her another role or just explain that you wanted those closest to you to be involved.

You could always make her an usher. I know it's not a big standing up in the wedding party part, but it's still a big part of the wedding. You can still include her in all of the getting ready stuff and all the bridal party things. Both of my FSIL's are in my wedding party, but that's just because we have four people on each side. My two younger sisters are going to be my ushers. I told them that it's still a HUGE part of my wedding

I had a similar situation. We at having a small wedding around 100 people and after I got engaged I immediately asked my three bff's from college to be moh and bm's. FI has two sisters but I also wanted to include my good friends from home. Ultimately I decided to include the sisters instead of my friends from home because they are going to be family and I know they would be hurt if I didn't include them. The choice is up to you but if you think she might be hurt I'd include her and just have an uneven amount.

I think for me if my SIL lived closer and if she were closer to my age I would have definitely considered her. it's a good opertinuty to make a relationship with her since she will be your SIL forever. You are marrying her brother. think of the future in this case.

But if you are not close to her and really don't feel you want her as a BM then you don't have to. There is no law that says you have to make her a BM.

My SIL lives really far and she's a little less than twice my age. She was just barely able to make it down for the wedding so she would not have made a good BM for me.

Having siblings in the wedding party is optional, though some family members may disagree. I really like my FSIL--we're not super close yet, but we've only known each other about a year and live two hours apart. I hope that we'll become as close as sisters, so I asked her to be a BM. FH is going to ask one of my brothers to be a GM--he's not asking the other brother because they barely know each other AND I don't want him in my wedding (we aren't close).

Don't feel obligated to ask her to be in the wedding--but I'd include her with the bachelorette party and ask if she wants to hang out when you're getting ready.