My fiance and his whole family are from the Chicago area. I am not. There is a huge tradition in his family that during the reception, the bride puts on the apron and is serenaded by guests singing "Let me Call you Sweetheart." My future mother-in-law is insisting I do this tradition. Absolutely not. I think it's tacky and dumb. We don't do things like that in my family and I know my family will also think this tradition weird.
Also, my parents are paying for the wedding, so I don't think future mother-in-law has any business insisting on anything. I told future-in-mother law that I felt this tradition does not fit in with the elegance of the wedding I am planning and I will not be doing this.
So, what does she do? She runs to my fiance, complaining and has also told his whole family that I am refusing to partake in this family tradition and now his whole family is upset and calling me a slob. My fiance doesn't care either way. This is not his family's wedding and they are not paying.
Maybe I'm missing something, but I don't see the big deal.