FORGOT TO INCLUDE GIFT REGISTRY!! HELP!!

You're not supposed to include it with the invites anyways. Wedding party and parents can tell everyone. If people want to know, they will ask you or family otherwise they will just include a monetary gift in a card.

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Tell your parents where you are registered at and they will help spread the word.

Give the registry cards to your MOH, godmother, aunt, whoever is throwing your bridal shower.

They don't go in the wedding invitations, they go in the shower invites.

I've always seen them in invites. Otherwise how would people not going to the shower or related to you know where you were registered at?

I would just spread by word of mouth, people who want to buy a gift are going to ask someone were you are registered. You'll probably just end up get more monetary gifts

Technically you're not supposed to put them in the invitation. It's like saying "please come to my wedding and buy me something!"

However, I see everyone doing it...so....idk. (shrug) Put it on your website or send it in an email to some key people who will spread it around.

I would have thought putting it in the invitation as a courtesy so that they don't have to hunt someone down that knows...

I dunno, I've only ever seen invitations with them in there so I'm kind of surprised it's considered a no no. I thought that was how you did it!

That is what I am thinking, give the gift registry cards to my mom, so she can give them to the families, and my MOH takes care of keeping it spread around to friends.

What do you think????

Don't do anything. The only place registry cards belong is in the shredder or (possibly) in a shower invitation. Wedding invitations should include no mention of gifts, not even "no gifts please."

If people want to know where you're registered they will ask you or someone close to you. I'd find it odd if someone's MOH handed me a registry card.

We got a bunch of cards with our registries, they went in the trash. My mom put where we were registered in the shower invites but NOT in the wedding invites...

Awesomepants, our BBB consultant looked really personally injured when I refused to take her registry cards.

Agreed with the other ladies, its considered rude to include information about the gift registry within your invites. Now, you are supposed to include them on your wedding website or provide that information when you have a bridal shower. I'm not having a bridal shower so we just have it listed on our wedding website. I found all this out btw as I started working on the invites. I also found out its just as rude to expect a gift from your guests.

I usually do a search for registries on one of the wedding websites and it tells you where people are registered! If they wanna know there are plenty of resources!

I agree with Heather. If I don't know where a couple is registered I just take to the internet. 9 times out of 10 people are registered at BBB, if I don't find them there I move on to Macy's and Target. I've never not found someone's registry.

Oh Lord how I hate those registry cards. I refused to put the info on Cate's bridal shower invites. However, I did stick them in the envelope. I didn't want to do it though. They wanted me to tell guests to ship to FL. I flat our refused that one.

Maria...Word of mouth will work just fine. No worries.

Shannah says she has never seen a wedding invite without registry cards. I wonder if this is another one of those regional/cultural differences? Thoughts?

Carole I'll probably get flamed for this but I don't think it's a regional/cultural thing. I think it's just bad etiquette that people have gotten used to seeing which makes them forget that it's rude.

The dollar dance? Cash bar? Regional thing.

What Kris said. I think it's an etiquette issue. It's not difficult to find where a couple is registered with the internet, or simply by asking someone who is close to the couple. Someone I know was blasting facebook in the weeks before his wedding to check out his registry info at __ and sorry he couldn't invite many people because they were trying to keep it under 40 people. Duuuurrr.

They never should be included in the invite. Technically, not in the shower invite either. I agree with Kris. It's not regional. It's tacky.

Not to start THAT discussion again, but I have asked many times in which parts of the country SOME things are acceptable. I never got any meaningful response.

So we'll keep "regional" as a nice, PC and peace keeping solution, but it's really not the case with registry info.

Ha ha. I was just saying! Lol. I wouldn't call it cultural, I'm in Iowa so no cultural there. I've seen it in all wedding invitations growing up and to date. Family, friends, friends of the family, co-workers. For me, I just thought it was something you did so they knew the things you needed if they chose to get you a gift as I certainly don't expect gifts.

I guess I figure if it's tacky to put it in there, isn't it kinda tacky to even register anywhere and tell people the things you'd rather them get you than have them pick something out?

However I really don't want to start a debate on etiquette. These days it's just something that is seriously lacking.

And not everyone has the internet so the search engine or wedding website isn't always ideal.