FMIL wants to wear a tea length dress..

Its her day too so just let her wear what she wants. These kinds of things should be filed in "things nobody will care about the day after." :-)

Yep, I wouldn't even give it a second thought. Although I know what my mom is wearing, I don't have the slightest clue what fh mom and stepmom are wearing. It's not important to me and I don't want to feel like a bossy bride trying to coach or guide them in their choices.

She will look fine...black is in these days to wear to a wedding alot of people do it...and tea length is a perfect length most girls wear a shorter dress to weddings anyway

I wouldnt mind. My FMIL lives in FL and will more than likely pick a dress that's shorter, even though my mom is wearing a gown. NBD.

Not to worry. Unless you have some idea of what you do want her to wear, I would just let her wear what she wants.

I would let her wear whatever she wants. You have enough to worry about, why pick parents outfits too? My only request to the moms was that they don't wear navy blue since my BMs are wearing it. But past that I don't care what they wear. My mom will probably wear her service dress since the guys are and she hates dressing up and although its navy blue, its ok cause alot of my guests will be in uniform! and FH's mom hates dresses so idk what she is going to wear, but i dont care!

My sister asked me the other day when we were talking about the cruise (we are getting married on a 5 day Carnival Cruise) what I wanted all the guests to wear. I told her I didn't really care. She was amazed and of course then made a wise crack that she is going to just wear jeans and a t-shirt. I told her that would be fine with me, which astonished her even more! I only care about what I and FH are going to wear, as long as everyone is there with us on the cruise, having fun, and enjoys the food and open bar, that is all that matters!! Good luck!

I agree with the above. After she got her make up done, heels a nice clutch she will look great!! I dont like to be bossy either letting my mom and FMIL wear whatever they want.

I would let her wear whatever she wants. No need making her feel uncomfortable just to have everyone match.

Whatever makes her comfortable should be what's important. If you are worried about her not sticking out as his mothers. Get them both corsages.

I guess my biggest concern is she is going to look like just a random guest and I wasn't sure if the black would look too funeral like lol. but the corsages is a good idea! thanks =]

What time of day is the wedding? if it is 5pm or after, there is no question, even ettiquette-wise, black is totally appropriate. IMO dress length is inconsequential. . .we are having an after-5 wedding my mom does not want to wear a long dress (she's 5' nothin' it would be an alterations nightmare) she is going tea length. . .I HAVE requested a color "group" because I don't want my mom to pick a pastel (washes her out). . .MOG literally told me, "pick what I'm wearing and what color and I'll order it" I don't want to do that. . . I told her I wasn't going to pick her outift, but I do think she looks lovely in blue. lol.

I refused to tell anyone, besides the wedding party, what to wear (and even then they got to choose their shoes and jewelry). My mom and FMIL kept asking what they should wear and I continuously told them "anything". My mom wore a knee-length navy blue dress and MIL wore black slacks and a teal jacket. My brother, who escorted my mom down the aisle, also kept asking what he should wear and I refused to choose for him.

The parents were distinguished by corsages and bouts, and that was enough.

I would just let her wear whatever she chooses. My FMIL keeps asking what she should wear and what color and I told her I just want her to find something she loves and it doesnt matter to me what color, etc. She will have a beautiful corsage to distinguish her as mother of the groom.