Fighting after marriage? For the married.

The same thing we argued about before we were married .. his sister. I can't stand her and he thinks I should be the bigger person and just let it go. I disagree. But regardless our situation hasn't changed, we lived together before we were married, so we didn't have any adjustments to make that could lead up to fighting. All I can suggest is to have open communication with your FH. If something is bothering you, tell him. And hopefully he does the same. If you don't currently live together that might cause a few hiccups. I highly suggest counseling, it was fantastic for us and we never argue. I think all future married couples should have some form of it.

They are not different. We argued before from time to time and we still do... usually about the same stuff. I guess there is a comfort or resolve in knowing that we are married now and committed to working it out, and we tend to pick our battles more wisely because there is no point in picking at every little thing when your going to spend the rest of your life with that person.

Right after the wedding we argued about sex...he wanted more than I think my body can handle (typical guy). We also still argued about his mom (b/c of all the crap she pulled during the planning and at the wedding) but once we sat down and hashed things out...we eventually stopped the arguments...in fact, I feel like we've argued far less than we did prior to getting married...but that's b/c most of our fights were about his mom...and since we have 0 contact with her now...the fights have virtually gone out the door. She was always 'chippering' in her ear "What if this... or what if that...or what's she going to concentrate on after planning the wedding?" then he'd bring it to me and I knew instantly she was saying something to him...drove me out of my mind!

Sometimes we have petty arguments about cleaning and household chores but most of the time when he starts those arguments it's b/c something else is on his mind (like work) or he's hungry.

We aren't married yet, but we will probably continue to argue about sex. I can have sex several times a day every day. He's okay with once a week. lol We don't argue about it but he did get mad that I bought a "boyfriend" and I told him to keep up then.

Lol....Miss Tatto, and here I thought I was the only one who had this issue. He is cool with once a week, me I would be glad if it was 3 times a week.

Really, arguments about being intimate? Hmm. I didn't expect newlyweds to argue about that.

@Brandie, no we do not live together. Never have. We are going to premarital counselling though.

Lol, we are not even newly weds yet! I think for us it's a age thing....they say men hit their peak in their twentyies, women in their 40tys! If thats true, he's past his, and I am about to come into mine!....lol!

Well for me the same thing we argued about before the marriage during the ceremony and after. But we have a way on how we deal with it. One thing that i cant say enough is keep the lines of communication open Bennett the two of you and remind your FH or DH that u married him not his family for those who have that problem. I think everyone is experiencing some type of financial stress no matter who you are or how much you make. One thing to keep in mind is remember when you argue, the make up after is wonderful...lol

HAHAHAH Future Mrs. L and Ms. Tattoo, i thought FH and I were the only ones with those issues. I'm all about it all the time and he's like eh.....maybe later.

I'll agree with most of the PPs. It was mostly the same little things as before. The one "new" argument we keep going back to stems from our honeymoon though. We live in MI and visited Myrtle Beach, SC for our honeymoon, and FH has wanted to move there since before we came back. I am VERY tied to my family and I don't want to move. Its not really a serious argument, but I think it causes us both a lot of anxiety because we have always agreed about the "big" things before.

We argue about the same things we argued about before we got married. Nothing has changed in that respect. I still have the same desire to work out our problems that I did before. The only new argument was that we just can't find time for a honeymoon, so I give him crap about it...

We didnt argue much before marriage (we're both easy going people, not cause we avoid things), if we did it was mostly wedding planning decisions and stress, so obviously not that anymore.

We didn't live together before marriage so most arguments we've had have been around household things or just daily things-we really havent had many, mostly-why do you do ______ that way? my way is better (haha)

we havent argued, but we have had a couple discussions about sex and frequency and such.

We really don't argue much, but if we do it is about stupid, petty stuff and is a result of not having enough time to be intimate. See we both could do it three times a week, but we have a teenager in the townhouse and no privacy.

In the almost 9 years that I've known my husband, we've only had one fight. Neither one of us liked it, and we've never had another one. We didn't argue before we married and we don't argue now. Not that we always agree on everything all the time - that's impossible! But we do know how to communicate with each other, and we can resolve any issues by talking them through.

We haven't had any "big" fights since our wedding (two months ago today!) only a few disagreements that we worked out or ignored if the issue was dumb to begin with.

We don't fight very often, we have deep conversations about stuff like ...

Sex ... he wants it every morning and night and I'm like uh three or four times a week is good ...

Sometimes Money and Responsibility ... we never lived together prior to being married and though I slept here on weekends these issues never came up but now with all the bills piling up and groceries and rent ... It has become extremely upsetting for me ... and I often feel like househould duties falls on my shoulders ... the other day I came home from work and literally stormed around the apartment picking up the garbage and took 4 LARGE bags of trash to the dumpster ... oh I was upset ...

And jobs ... I think I need to get a 2nd job, he doesn't want me to get a second job because he's afraid we'll never see each other ...

And where to live, currently we have a roommate and I am not nearly as happy as I thought I was going to be having another person live with us ...

So we talk about these issues and are currently working to resolve them ...

Some stuff like where to live can't be addressed till May or June when we get into our last 6 months or so of our current lease ...

Money we just work together and figure it out, it is hard but we make it work ...

He seems to think that once I have finished school and have a full time job, I'll feel better ...but we'll see ...

A piece of advice I was given before we got married was, think about the situation and see how you feel the next day if you are still upset then address it ... plus you may be more calm ... LOL

Well we are not married yet but we used to argue a lot of about FMIL and FSIL and it seemed like we always argue cause of them. Last yr I had to tell him I can't have them around me. Just plain and simple they are mostly our cause of argument. We have came to agreement to separate from them cause our arguments was leading me to leave him. Since it been a yr of our separation from his fam our relationship has gotten better and now we have little disagreement about the apt being messy or him not picking up after himself or him not paying the bills on time which is normal for a couple. Arguing about his fam was beyond crazy and we both knew if they continue having part of our lives they will drive us to break up our little family. I love him but my happiness was dropping. Only cause you have a child doesn't mean you have to put your happiness 2nd. Which if you're unhappy your child and home is unhappy. It's not healthy to be arguing in from or even if the child is bed.

I also would like to add as I just his my mid 25 which I always look at it mid way of my 50s I could agree with Miss Tattoo lo. I am a Scorpio and we are very sexual. Every time I want it my FH goes to bed early and sometimes makes me want to wake him up in the middle of the night. Ughh. My sister gave me a toy lmao she went to a sex toy party in Las Vegas and bought one and gave me one. He then threw it out. I had a friend who also bought me a to but way before I met my FH when I was single to mess with him. I told him I wanted a vibrator cause it's been a long time when FH and I first moved in and organizing our apt to throw out unnecessary things he saw it and threw it out. That sucked like wonders. lmao He said there was no need to have one.

It is usually the same thing you argue before marriage. We have actually got much closer than we were and we hardly fight.