After seeing all the great advice on other posts I thought I'd finally get some real insight to my situation.
My fiance is absolutely NOT interested in the wedding. Like at all. He said he does not want a wedding. He would rather just go to the courthouse and "get it over with, sign the paper and get married". He said since we already live together nothing will change after we sign the paper. I definitely don't see it like this, as marriage is not the same, and will bring on a new chapter to life. It really frustrates me that he feels this way and I have tried explaining what a wedding signifies and what marriage means to me, and he doesn't get it. He is so dead set on how he feels. We already have the venue and photographer booked for November 21, 2020 THIS YEAR. I don't mind planning the whole thing (as he wants no part except food tasting). It is creating a lot of stress, but I'm not sure if I'm making a mistake in marrying him or not. I hate saying that, but he has ruined every experience so far (creating registry and engagement pics). I've postponed dress shopping because I'm not feeling 100% and as of now I'm not looking forward to the wedding or any wedding related thing. I've dreamed about how special this day (and experience) would be since I was a little girl, and I feel like it's shattering. (I also lost my mom when I was 18- I'm 26 now- and that also makes this whole thing harder) I've explained this to him on how his bad attitude is affecting me and how it's hurting me, but he literally doesn't care about the wedding stuff. He's like we're just doing it because I want it. I've thought about postponing, but am I just postponing the inevitable? It's just so hard to see what I should do. Has anyone else been in a similar situation? I suggested pre-marital counseling because I think that would help with us maybe getting on the same page and help with preparing for our marriage, but he is SO against it. He thinks it's a bunch of crock, and we can just deal with things as they come up. I told him I would rather have talks and be prepared before things happen. I'm just feeling so defeated. Any advice would be MUCH appreciated! Thanks!