Fiancé doesn’t want a wedding m.

I'm confused. Is he just not wanting a big party or does he not want to get married? You're not going to be able to just change your name without a marriage certificate. The marriage license process and legal marriage are where "Uncle Sam" is going to get in your business. The ceremony in front of friends and family and the reception are just bells and whistles.

I am confused too is your fh not wanting a wedding or to get married, I would sit down and talk to him so you can clearly express your feelings and listen to his feelings and then go from there.

How long have you been engaged for? It seems odd that someone would propose and then say "but I don't want a wedding and get the government involved". And as mentioned above, you're not going to easily change your name without the government involved and quite frankly, you shouldn't tie yourself to someone in name who won't tie themselves to you legally

I’m very confused. Why propose then? Also, is this not something you guys talked about before? These are definitely things that should be discussed early on

Ok 1 feel that him saying that to you just change your last name is like he doesn't care about you or considering compromising. But what does he meaning about the uncle Sam in his business. So he just want no union ceremony at all. My FH didn't want to have a wedding either but has changed his mind for me but we are not having nothing too big immediate family and friends with a lower guest number.Now he's in it I ask him about certain things and give me his input. He helped pick out something. You guys need to talk I hope you are both can come to a decision that works for you both.

When my fiancé proposed to me I just wanted an elopement still a ceremony but I didn’t want the stress of planning a big wedding. Though with my fiancé encouragement and his help in planning everything we’re having a big wedding. I have anxiety so the thought of being surrounded by everyone I know is scary! But I know this is something he’s truly wanted forever and it is more than just changing your name I’ve realized. You’re confessing your love for each other to everyone you know and that’s a moment you’ll look back on and cherish. If he’s the right one you will find a middle ground and sometimes love is about giving even if he doesn’t want the wedding if it’s something you want he should take that seriously into consideration.

I would ask why he proposed to me in the first place if he doesn't want to get married....

I would want to know in detail his reservations on getting married or having our marriage legally registered. Maybe you could find common ground if he explains it. Then you have to decide if it matters to you to be legally married or not. Is it about the wedding or the legal registration of marriage? You can have a wedding and just not do the marriage certificate.

Does he not want to be married? Or just doesn't want a traditional wedding (a lot of guys wait because they don't think they have the money to afford it and that stresses them out)?

Because there is a huge difference.

You will not be able to legally change your name without a marriage certificate/license.

If it's the wedding--just elope. Still legal, and you get a honeymoon built-in. Go somewhere you can go for cheap. Go to Florida or some other scenic place in the US.

If it's the marriage, hate to say it darling--let this one go.