Fiancé doesn't care about wedding planning

Eh....same here...sheesh!! He is only interested when he needs to see how much things are costing. At that point I just tell him that he will receive a final bill on the morning of 9/24/17!! Honestly the less he is involved the better...his mouth would be of better service elsewhere...

My fiance is the same way! I rely on my mom and sister for the planning. Lol

View Quoted Comment For me, it’s so frustrating that I just want to not do a wedding.

I have the same situation...I recommend to not take it personally, I am pretty sure this is VERY common and that doesn’t reflect on your choice of dude you are great and your guy is too, he just isn’t coming from the same perspective.

This phenomenon has got its upsides in addition to being really annoying. You have the freedom to plan freely and without general criticisms, which means that you can really have the freedom to craft your dream wedding within budget...

That said, mentally prepare yourself for that moment when he all of a sudden cares what color your napkins are after months of non-involvement. It’s also “normal” but also very irritating...

Trust, if better that you get as little input as possible. Most men don't care about stuff like that. I only pulled my fiance in on the guest list (obviously), food, wine, music and picking the venue, that's it. Other than that, I got this! I have no problem, moving forward and making decisions. He knows that pageantry of a wedding is really for women anyway.

You are not alone! The big question is when he says "I don't care" does he actually mean it, or is he later the peanut gallery with criticism? If he really does not care, then find an aspect he does care about [alcohol, food] once you identify that, it can become his project. If he says he doesn't care, but then criticizes, very kindly, but directly, confront him with the conflicting evidence ["you said you dont care, but it seems like you do. You didn't care about XYZ, but you also dont like what I picked, so you must care a little bit. I need you to help me so we both get what is important to us on our special day"]. Sit together and set a time line for tasks to be done, in an itemized fashion, so that he understands objectively exactly how much you have to get done, and how much his lack of involvement is impacting your stress and schedule. If all else fails, if he means it when he says "I will do what ever you want" tell him you want him to do 1 [specific] task but a certain time [1-2 weeks out or more]. Once he begins getting involved it may get better. Open and honest dialogue can go a long way. But if you make a boundary, stick to it. You are already building a new life together at this time, and should be shifting from working as two individuals to working as an actual dyad. New rules are being written regarding division of work load. FH and I had the same conversation and it worked out great.