Fiancé doesn't care about wedding planning

My husband was the exact same way and I loved it because I was able to have complete control OF EVERYTHING lol

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The only thing mine really cared about was the food tasting and making sure the steak was good. I feel like most of us have this issue, but if you think about it, did you really think he was going to care about flowers and colors.

From my experience men are generally more interested in the buying home/finding an apt., furnishing the home, the honeymoon, and signing checks to pay off vendors. And honestly sometimes its best like that you don't want your FH second guessing every little wedding detail. I feel really lucky that my FH is very excited about the wedding and actively involved in the planning process but he never seems to disagree on any of the details. We have the same vision. Also, in his mind the wedding day is more of a woman's vision of perfection. So it just works we have the same taste in decor, color, styles, etc.

Rejoice this is a good thing.

Planning a wedding is basically a more complicated, expensive party full of formalities and details. Not many men enjoy stuff type of planning.

Yes we even had a small argument... but honestly I just need him to be a tie breaker when it comes down to making decisions that I'm torn on.. I try not to get so upset because I understand that he wants me to have whatever I want without negative feedback... I got emotional and he go back on task by helping me.. it is a tug a war though.. Men don't want to get into the details.

Mine wasn't interested at first until I started talking numbers. I was told by married women to give him maybe 1-2 options when planning. It'll possibly help him with how to answer your questions.

My fiance doesn't care much either. He said as long as there's food booze and red roses he's good so once I made sure that's covered, I pretty much started planning on my own and asking my MOH and BM for planning help. That's part of why they are there!!

You are so not alone. I am dealing with the same issue with my fiance. He keeps saying "whatever you want Angel," to the point where I hit a wall and had a huge breakdown.

The key is sitting down and communicating. He was so hyper focused on ordering his ring, and we hadn't even signed the contracts for the reception venue. I felt like he kept putting the cart before the horse. After sitting down and talking about it, I have told him there are a few things that he needs to take care of. Make them little things, but talk about it. He will be receptive.

My FH was acting that way for a little while but once we went to a tasting and there were two different types of chicken he got crazy excited to pick the one he liked best. I just had to put a decision in front of him that he really had a strong opinion on

Agree with pp... don't make him sort through. several different things to give you his opinion... give him 2-3 choices, choose the time to discuss wisely, and briefly don't plan to discuss many different topics at one time or in one night.

I think our SO's focus more on a few things. For my FH it has been good, drinks and his outfit. He didn't want to make the decisions about anything else. He was ok with whatever I wanted.

Every time I ask FH for an opinion on something, I always get "do whatever you want, I don't care" but then when I say "so I made this decision on XYZ can I show you?" suddenly he says "But we haven't decided on that yet!" It's getting really frustrating that he doesn't have an opinion until AFTER I've searched and searched and made a choice on something! But it is his day too. So it's good that he wants to be involved.

My FH was super thrilled for catering tasting, cake tasting, and venue showings. So far the other stuff doesn't interest him as much, he's really a go with the flow kind of guy and let me take over most of the planning. Which I really don't mind since he always offers an opinion when I ask.

My FH only has an opinion on the budget! Decor etc. he could care less about.

Honestly as soon as you get used to his disinterest... you get comfortable making all the decisions yourself... then he's gonna care and want a say and to change things. lol! My FH wants to discuss details but not the big stuff. We still don't have a venue, and when I get frustrated he isn't helping to look for one, he says "I want to talk about colors and flowers!! Venues are boring!"

FH is the same way. I got upset because every time I brought something up it got shrugged off. I explained to him that I want it to be something we both do and I just want him to be engaged and interested when we have those conversations. It's important me that it's for US, and I get his opinions too. He felt bad and didn't know that's how I felt. He's been getting better ever since we had that talk. I think it stems from he really doesn't understand weddings. He legit didn't know what wedding bands were. He thought he had to buy me another engagement ring.

Date twin!

Mine is the same. He doesn't care about much, but I realized he cares about one thing--the cake! So he is in charge of that when the time comes. Maybe try to find something that he is excited about, besides marrying you, of course.

Don't feel discouraged! This is how my FH has been through all this wedding planning. He just wants me to be happy. But I do try to make him pick something. He picked out our first dance and that made me super happy

FH is the same. I focus on one thing at at time with him. Like right now it's remind him that we have to meet with our photographer before he raises prices. He just says OK and shows up when I need him to lol good luck!

Hey, some women hate this kind of planning, and some men love it. In fact, some, like David Tutera have made an empire out of it.

Your wedding isn't for 20 months. Even to me, that's a long time. He'll weight in when it comes time to book the venue and his money is in the mix. He'll weigh in when it comes to alcohol, and what his friends and family will be expecting. He'll weigh in when it comes to selecting GM and a BM, and he'll weight if he cares whether they wear tuxes or suits, and whether or not he wants them in sneakers and superhero T-Shirts. He'll have an opinion when one photographer is quoting you $1,700 and another is quoting you $2,800. He'll weigh in when you're trying to choose one of three DJs. He'll weigh in when he realizes that the both of you have enough savings and good enough credit to buy a home or have a conventional wedding. He'll weigh in.

In his mind, he's put the ring on your finger, and he's probably not going to become too interested until the rubber meets the road.