I've got no idea how to handle this anymore, and couldn't really get much out from Google searches since I'm the groom.
Basically my fiance doesn't want to do anything together with me when it comes to planning our wedding, and she doesn't want to elope either which is something I'd be fine with. So we're stuck in a situation where we need to have a big wedding, and I'm the only one interested in planning it. I don't mind taking part in planning for the wedding, but what I do mind is having to do it alone. For me a wedding is something both the bride and the groom need to be involved in. But no matter how I try to convince her that we have to do it together, she doesn't change her opinion that it's something I can do alone.
With that said, I'm a somewhat socially awkward systems administrator who doesn't have a clue about weddings in general, to a point of not even having attended any for my entire adulthood so far. I have chosen a career path that drains a lot of my energy every day, and the weekends I take care of my daughter from a previous relationship. I'm left with just a few hours in the evening to push things forward, and I haven't really done much because her not being interested completely kills my motivation.
Despite her having no interest in helping me get the ball rolling, my fiance is constantly pressuring me to move things forward. She has a cousin in Canada who recently got married, and this cousin is now asking questions about our wedding that my fiance feels are uncomfortable to answer. As a result, I take some flak about not doing anything or about things not progressing fast enough, which has to do with my exhaustion/lack of motivation. It has now gotten to a point that we're arguing about the wedding, and she is threatening to call the entire wedding off if I don't start to do everything quickly and alone.
I love my fiance a lot, and very unconditionally. But I just don't know what to make of all this. When she makes these threats about calling it off, it's like she's a completely different person than the one I proposed to. It feels like the wedding is ruining the relationship we had. And I'm scared that if the wedding is actually called off, which at this point would seem like a rational thing to do, our relationship would be permanently damaged.
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