fh really doesn't want to wear a tie

Really? He can’t put on a lousy tie for the ceremony? He can take it off after the ceremony.

If he refuses, then I guess GMs go tieless too.

Its his wedding day and if he doesn’t want to wear a tie he doesn’t have to. I think my FH would be uncomfortable not wearing a tie to a wedding especially if he was a groomsmen, maybe he should talk to his groomsmen and see what they would prefer. If they seem ok with wearing ties I would have them wear the wedding color and it would look fine usually the groom dresses slightly differently anyway.

If he won't do it the GM shouldn't either. I will say though, this sounds silly. You shouldn't have to "make him" wear the tie, he's not a 5 year old (I hope ). He should do it cause he's an adult and it's a formal affair...

FH felt the same way, didn't want to wear a tie, I let it go and let him decide when he went to look at options for himself and the groomsmen. He went from a suit with no tie to choosing a tux with tie & vest. I chose my battle with this and usually when I do this he chooses what is best.

If your FH decides that he doesn't want to wear a tie though, I would not put the groomsmen in one either.

My FH doesnt like ties either. They are suffocating to him lol and since this is his day too he won't be wearing a tie just a nice button up since its a beachy wedding

This is is wedding too. He should be able to pick what he wears. Unless you are planning a black tie event then if he doesn't want to wear a tie then you shouldn't force him.

It's his wedding, too. He should be able to decide what he wears if he feels that strongly about it. Agree with PP - unless it's black tie, it really isn't worth forcing him to wear one.

He won't wear a tie to his own wedding? Seriously?

Yeah. I am all about him not doing it. He has only had strong opinions about a few things, and this is one of them. We aren't doing an especially formal affair, so I figure I'll let him win this one.

So would you all have the whole party go tie-less?

What are the GM wearing? Is he uncomfortable in it or does he just not like the way it looks? Has he tried a clip-on before? This takes out some of the discomfort.

Its his wedding too. He doesn't want to wear tie? Then he shouldn't.

If he is tieless..then everyone else in the wedding party is too.

You all are nicer than I am with saying FH shouldn't have to wear a tie if he doesn't want to. Personally, I don't think I would be ok with it. Put it on for pictures and the ceremony and take it off after. Fortunately FH loves suits and ties so we haven't had to deal with something like this.

View Quoted Comment Not necessarily, but you could and then he can wear a different colored shirt or vest

Honestly, my FH didn’t want to wear a tie of any sort either. We sat down and talked about it and the overall look we were going for and he finally decided he would wear a tie as long as it wasn’t a bow tie and no suspenders. It was a good compromise for us, but I would have been ok with him not wearing one too since we are having a more casual wedding.

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Oh I like that a lot. Thanks Tiara!

When the bride is wearing the most formal gown she will ever wear in her life, it looks a little silly to see the groom in an open shirt. The couple should talk and make a joint decision about the level of formality of their wedding. If he won't wear a tie, then the whole wedding should be scaled down to something more casual, including the bride's dress.

My Hubby isn't wearing a tie either. In fact, he is wearing jeans and boots!

If your fiance is skipping a tie I'd have all the groomsmen go tie-less as well!

How casual will your wedding be? Will it be indoors or outside? What style (rustic, classic, glam, beachy, etc.)?

You could go for a blazer and button-down look or suits with vests and no tie. These articles also have some great suggestions: 8 Wedding Suits for Grooms That Aren't Super Fancy, Cocktail and Semi-Formal Attire for Grooms

Here are some pictures I found of groomsmen skipping the tie:

Photo by Emily Magers Photography in Santa Clarita, CA

Photo by Sascha Reinking Photography in NYC

I wouldn't force FH to wear one either. If he absolutely hates it I would let it be. If he doesn't wear one, then BP shouldn't either. I would look into suspenders or maybe having him wear a vest and not the GM - something just to create a difference between GM and Groom. It;s not necessary but in my opinion looks nice.

My FH isn't wearing a tie and neither will the groomsmen. I think that he doesn't need to if he doesn't want to. My FH hates having anything near his neck so I completely respect his decision. We're having a very casual wedding anyways I don't think that it's necessary.