FH Jealous of Bridal Shower??

I just know we went over all this before because when we registered, the girl helping us even mentioned how sometimes your registry has to be updated with more stuff after the shower because everything gets purchased.

I'm pretty sure the reason he got upset was because he was already having a really bad day but I think it's silly and just wondered if anyone else had expereinced this!

I can't be much help.. I never had a shower.

Can you make it coed though? I know plenty of wedding showers with the bride and the groom =)

My DH came to my shower & hung out & opened gifts & met all the ladies who would be at the wedding. My bro-in-law to be & other sis's b/f and father were there too so it was fine

Leena, a co-ed shower would have been a great idea but it's all already been planned, invitations are already out, the RSVP date is passed...and I don't think my MOH would appreciate having to change everything up and add people at this point. I would have suggested it if I knew FH was going to have an issue with it!

Kirst, I thought I remembered seeing your DH in your shower pics with you! I think if FH continues to have an issue with it (assuming it wasn't acutally just a reaction based on his bad day) I will urge him to come. Not much more I can do, I don't think.

Cate's DH stopped in to say hello at the beginning of the shower but Cate opened her gifts without him. He didn't mind. I am sure he was happy they were getting household items they would otherwise have to purchase.

Carole, that's how I thought FH would feel too! After all, the gifts will still benefit BOTH of us, regardless of who is actually unwrapping them!

Honestly, I think FH is feeling a little blue about the pre-wedding celebrations. I had my bachelorette party a few weeks ago with 7 girls, my MOH and mom are throwing me a big, fancy shower and FH has been scrambling to plan his own bachelor party because his BM is from out of state and won't be able to come out to CA in time to attend. So now his bachelor party is only going to consist of FH and 2 of his GM. I feel bad for him. He's also had a few friends RSVP with no's whereas none of mine have (yet) so I think he's just super bummed. I understand why he'd be jealous, but it's really not my fault that this is how showers work. I didn't even ask for a shower!

My shower is this Saturday and there are some gifts that people want to give FH to open and not me so he is coming in at the very end to say thank you, open his gifts, and pack the gifts up while I am saying goodbye.

Sorry he's feeling left out. That's actually really sweet though. I asked H if he wanted to be part of the shower, b/c a couple of people actually offered to throw us coed ones and he had zero interest. He literally wanted nothing to do with it. The thought of it bored him to tears.

I'd just ask him if he wants to stop by in the beginning or if he wants to help you open gifts.

Or tell him that you'll throw him a private shower with the lingerie and you'll help him open all those gifts.

Tami, I understand your stance on it and I would have no objection to a co-ed shower. My MOH and mom offered to throw me the shower and FH never had any interest in it. It wasn't until we started talking about the gifts that he started acting jealous that stuff WE want is going to be given to ME. He seems to be missing the point that WE still get to use them together even if I'm the one unwrapping the box the gift comes in.

Kris, I agree it's kinda sweet. Aside from the fact that he seems to be angry with me for getting gifts but anyway...I will continue to ask him if he wants to come by while I open gifts and help but I just remembered he's supposed to babysit his nephew during my shower so I'm not sure it's going to happen anyway. I like the lingerie suggestion, though!

If you make it a "wedding shower" vs a "bridal shower", you could have a couple's wedding shower.. It's not totaly normal, but I don't think it would be completely odd..

I asked DH if he wanted to do it that way and he opted out. He was just as excited to see the gifts when I got home.

I like Kris' suggestion too though lol

Hmm.. I mentioned a few times to my FH he should come, itd be fun etc.. And he wanted nooo part of a shower full of women. And he didnt really care to have a co-ed one either. However when I got home he helped bring in all the gifts & went through the bags like christmas morning

I think he is being a stupid ass. He should be happy that THE WOMEN do this and that he even gets to share the presents. My FH was blown away when I brought all the gifts that we got. Tell him if he wants one to tell his dad to throw one, I'm pretty sure his dad will tell him he's being gay.

Gee, Soon2bMrs.Smith, how do you really feel? Lol

What did you register for that's got your FH so excited?!

Most guys would have little interest in opening baking supplies and cookware.

Honestly, the ONE thing he wants is a Margarita maker. But he really is looking forward to everything on our registry even though a lot of it is stuff he'll never use.

Kat- My DH was a little jealous too with the shower, we are all very close, my family and his. His mom actually planned most of it at a beautiful winery. I could tell he really wanted to be part of it and was excited for me. I did the shower just me and opened the gifts and he showed up later with my dad and uncle. He still got to see everything we got and see everyone. I left a few little ones to the side for him to open. Plus when we got home and unloaded all the gifts he was like holy crap glad I wasn't there to open all of that!

Oh and one more thing, you only get one shower, even if he had a bad day, don't let it ruin your joy and excitement for your shower! Trust me on that!

Kat, for FH bachelor party, he can invite other friends -- they don't have to be just guys in the wedding party.

Our BM got married the week before us, so he & DH had a joint bachelor party with a bunch of their mutual friends (who were not in either wedding party).

I have to agree with Soon2bMrs.Smith on this. I JUST told FH about this and we agreed. You have extended the invite out to your FH to attend the shower, he declined, okay then he needs to Shut the Frack up! He doesn't get to whine and complain anymore. You tried to include him, he said nope, move forward.

I'm not trying to be rude about it, It just sucks that he is making you feel bad about something that is being done for you in your honor. It's not your fault his pre wedding parties fell apart, it was out of y'alls hands. That is no reason to make you feel bad about yours and him being overly jealous.