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Master October 2012

FH Jealous of Bridal Shower??

Kat, on September 5, 2012 at 3:54 PM

Posted in Planning 30

I posted last night about how I had to replace an item on one of our registries because it was discontinued. While editing the registry I caught a glimpse of a couple of things that have been purchased. I later told FH what I had seen, which got us talking about my shower. Apparently, prior to this...

I posted last night about how I had to replace an item on one of our registries because it was discontinued. While editing the registry I caught a glimpse of a couple of things that have been purchased. I later told FH what I had seen, which got us talking about my shower.

Apparently, prior to this conversation, FH was under the impression that the gifts I get at my bridal shower would be strictly lingerie and other things just for me. I explained to him that, while that used to be the tradition, now that couples register for gifts, shower gifts often come from the registry as well. He says it's not fair that I get to open OUR gifts without him there and actually seemed to be mad at ME that people will be getting stuff for my shower off our registry! Huh? Has anyone else encountered this with their FH?

I suggested to FH that if it was that big of a deal, he could come at the end of the shower and help open gifts but he syas he'd be out of place. I can't win!

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  • K
    Master October 2012
    Kat ·
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    Nancy, he invited several friends who are not in the wedding. A few guys said they were on board and then backed out when it was time to pay for it. His friends are super flakey. Smiley sad It's a really sore subject around here. I feel so bad for him.

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  • SophieMuffin
    Super May 2013
    SophieMuffin ·
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    We may be having a co-ed jack and jill shower (not the fund raising kind) not sure if FH actually cares but MoH suggested it. Haven't gotten that far into the planning yet, MoH is just as busy as me planning surprises behind my back lol Smiley smile

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  • krisalicious
    Master April 2012
    krisalicious ·
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    IDK. On a level I still do think it's sweet that he even cares, but with the other things you've just said I think he's just being kinda cranky, TBH. Maybe his job is getting the best of him.

    I've been to a zillion bridal showers, some of them really fun, and my H would die of boredom and estrogen overload at any of them. We went to a coed baby shower a couple years ago and I literally thought he might actually die. He even had whiskey in his hand (they had a full bar!!) and still he was so dramatic about it. "Baby bingo?!? What the...ugh!!" Smiley smile

    Maybe the guys in your family could just come over to your house while your FH babysits your nephew, and they could have a bbq or watch a game or something. That's what my H did during my shower. Trust me, he had way more fun than he would have oooohing and ahhhing over teapots. Smiley smile

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  • K
    Master October 2012
    Kat ·
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    I totally agree that he's being cranky and unreasonable about it. Luckily, it's not an ongoing argument or anything. He just brought it up the one time and seemed genuinely upset that I get to open gifts without him. But you ladies are right (and I thought this all along, but it's nice to have validation) that if he's not willing to come help me open them, he needs to let it go. Otherwise what's the other option? Call all the guests that are coming to the shower and ask them not to bring a gift unless it's lingerie or kitchen related? That's just silly. And rude.

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  • LovedOurWedding
    Super October 2012
    LovedOurWedding ·
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    We had both our dads, our groomsman, and my FH there. they were at a separate table away from us, and FH came in when it was time to open presents. Then afterwards we had the help of the groomsman packing up our car!

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  • Liz
    Expert October 2014
    Liz ·
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    I didn't see anyone suggest it yet...why not just ask him if he would like you to save opening the gifts until after the shower, just the 2 of you? That'll show you if that's really the issue as well.

    I personally always feel uncomfortable opening gifts in front of people, even though I know it's pretty standard at showers.

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  • Kristina
    VIP September 2012
    Kristina ·
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    Nope, I told him if he wants to come, then come, we registered together and he never came to the shower and has little to no interest in the things we got so it was no big deal for us.

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  • Kiesha
    Super September 2012
    Kiesha ·
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    My FH showed up at the end of both of my showers, to see everyone and visit and i swear to God it was like pulling teeth with him!! He even complained about having to carry the gifts out to the car at the one haha. Seriously though, dont let you FH ruin this for you. I think he's being a bit of a spoiled brat about it IMHO. you told him his options now he has to get over it

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  • K
    Master October 2012
    Kat ·
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    Liz - Actually FH said he thinks that's what I should do: bring the gifts home and open them together. But in my experience, the whole point of the shower is for the guest of honor to open gifts and everyone to see what she got. I know that is actually the most boring part for most guests (as a guest I ususally feel that way anyway) but I've never been to a shower where gifts weren't opened so it would seem weird or maybe even rude...IDK.

    I definitely will not let him ruin it for me. I already know that as soon as I come home from the shower, I'm going to show him all the gifts we get and he'll be just as excited as he would be if he were opening them himself! By then I'm sure he'll be over it.

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    Master April 2014
    Angel J ·
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    I cant really vote in on this one, im not having a shower so all gifts will have to be either brought to the wedding or mailed to my house for both of us to open after the wedding

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