Feet Washing at Ceremony

I love when couples do this. I've also seen it done in addition to/instead of the first dance at the reception.

My feet are so ticklish I'd probably start screaming

I'm sorry but I don't know much about this ceremony. I'll ask around and find out more about it.

My friend did this for her ceremony

Http://www.onefleshmarriage.com/2011/07/feet-of-commitment.html I'm thinking about doing one also. Hope this helps!

I'm not trying to put down anyone's religion but that just seems kind of "icky" to me. Plus, the logistics--who makes sure there are pans of water at the altar? So do you kneel on the floor in your wedding gown and possibly get it wet while you wash his feet? Does he take off his own shoes and socks or do you do that for him? And I guess he has to roll up his pant legs a little bit, thus leaving him with wrinkled pants for the rest of the day. And who is responsible for making sure they collect your wet towels and take them home? It doesn't seem like something I'd ever be interested in doing at a wedding, but if that's your thing, hey, go to it!

@Gonna be a Mrs. rjd You would assign someone to get the water and towels. I would would lean on a towel. I take off his shoes and socks and vise versa. I think of his pants are rolled for only 5 or less minutes or wouldn't do to much damage. And no one is going to be stairing at his pant legs anyhow. I know this doesn't sound conventional but it shows Christ love and service for our partners. If you read the link it will give you more insight as well.

It sounds like a beautiful thing. I think I'll ask FH if he wants to do it .

I've seen it before at a ceremony. It was beautiful along with the reading. There wasn't a dry eye in the house.

I'm pretty religious but this has sort of a hokey feeling to it. We don't share that same context today as those who witnessed Jesus humble himself like that. It doesn't feel genuine, especially because the cultural context made what Jesus did absolutely shocking. How many people understand that God in the flesh was doing what the lowest house slave was tasked with? Probably not many, judging by comments about getting dirty. Mary wiped Jesus' dirty feet with her hair. Are you honestly willing to give yourself over in full submission or is it just for show?

@Rachel I have many health issues and fh has already taken care of many many times when I couldn't. He's also in the army so when we began dating I had to confront my fears and I decided that if God forbid he lost a limb or all four would i stay by his side. The answer is yes. So no it's not just for show we are entering a Christian marriage full of service to one another. Some days I might need his service and help more. And then on other days I might get to help him. So we are doing it to show our faithfulness, gratitude and service to one another. Just as Christ served the disciples

I'm washing FH's feet during our ceremony. For us, it's a depiction and public portrayal of my submissive heart towards my FH as the Bible says in Colossians 3:18.

Judging by some comments I think some are not really understanding the biblical context of submission. But to answer the question I think it's a great idea but not for me because of time constraints

Thank you for all of your input! Just for some context, my fiance and I are faithful followers of Christ, and our ceremony would be the covenantal, holy ceremony that we believe marriage is truely about. It wouldn't be for show, since we fully understand the biblical roles of husband and wife, and the union God has created man and woman to be in. Because Christ so loved the church, a man so should love his wife, and that picture of perfect love and humility, submission, and dedication, as Christ was for the church, is what this part of the ceremony would represent for the bride and groom.

I think this sounds really nice

I got married in a church, and was raised Southern Baptist, but this is such a huge no to me. Sitting in a chair in a ballgown, keeping my dress dry, drying my feet so they could go back in my shoes, getting his shoes/socks on and off, keeping his pants dry, someone having to carry the dirty feet water and not spilling it on themselves, touching each other's feet, ick. I hate feet. I'm also super ticklish. I would not want to accidentally kick DH in the teeth before I had to kiss him.

I understand the biblical context, but it's just not practical to me. Also, we said nothing about "wives being submissive to their husbands" in our ceremony. It's 2016. Equal partners in life, none of this submissive wife, head of household is the husband stuff.

I wouldn't do it. It's SUPER awkward for the guests to watch. It takes a long time to get the shoes off, dry the feet, get the shoes back on, ect. And guests don't really know what to do with themselves while it's happening.

I have *dreamed* for years of doing this at my ceremony. In my

faith and community, this is a big deal. In fact, our pastor does this for all of his fellow pastors and new leaders.

However, when I talked about it with FH and the in-laws (who brag about their spiritual resume to everyone), they had no clue what I was talking about. We will not be doing it at the ceremony due to their reactions, unfortunately.

BUT I think I'm going to have it at the rehearsal dinner instead

When Jesus washed the disciples feet it was to model the most sacrificial love one could imagine. It isn't just submission as the parallel of marriage with Christ and the church-the man is supposed to love as Christ loved. That is why the woman trusts to submit to him, because he is submitted to Christ. In the context of Christ-followers, it is incredibly meaningful and special.

We aren't doing it because we are taking communion but I would say one thing. Make sure that each of you dry the other's feet well and that you don't have difficult shoes for your hubby to put back on you. Don't want any slippage or awkward moments.

ETA: Submission is a Biblical concept, not a cultural one. It also doesn't mean you're any less of a partner. If you want to do this and feel led to, do it regardless of logistics. Your guests will be fine for the 5 minutes it takes, particularly when many of them probably share your beliefs.

Raised Catholic, agnostic now. I've never seen this at a wedding. It would make me uncomfortable as a guest, especially coupled with readings about the wife being submissive. However, it seems really inappropriate to have this at a rehearsal dinner IMO.