Feels like I’m completing with my cousin’s wedding.

Ahhh, whatever happened to people just declining and not giving reasons? It really stinks that people have decided to go to the "better" wedding. Hopefully your wedding ends up with your nearest and dearest.

I'm so sorry that this is happening, Sarah. Weddings are supposed to be such a happy time and when things like this come up, it's very sad.

My advice to you is to concentrate on who will be there and be happy for you. This is YOUR day. Don't let anyone "rain on your parade." You're going to be marrying your best friend and that's what's most important.

Yes, it's unfortunate that this is happening but try to make this the best of it! Who knows...your family may change their mind and come anyway!

Is it bad that I secretly hope people with think my wedding is more fun tha hers? LOL. I mean, she's not having a DJ, no dancing, no drinking....
I wish her a happy wedding, she IS my cousin and I love her. Just annoying.
I know that day/night I will be too busy enjoying the company of the people who are there to worry about the stick-in-the-muds who don't show. But today I'm just bummin'.

Lol No it's not bad. It's funny and honest.

You both are having two very different weddings and that's okay. "Those that matter won't mind, and those that mind don't matter."

Have fun with your day and enjoy it! And enjoy hers too!

Wait.. it's one thing to not have a DJ but to NOT have music at all for dancing?! WTH?! Ummm.. I would choose yours over hers ANY DAY. And DON'T get me started on the no drinking business.. and I guess if it were for religious reasons then whatever.. but I would respectfully decline by saying "I'm going to a better party next month and I simply don't want to give you a gift. Thank you."

Like that saying, Jasmine. Leena, it's a religious thing. Dancing is frowned upon and drinking isn't aloud at all. We even had to make sure that we could sit in a co-ed crowd becaues their normal church services are not, men on one side, women on the other.

At leat I can count on my mom to dish out the "shame on you's!" LOL, she may be more upset with my relatives than I am!

Same thing happened at my sisters weddin last summer. They were 5 weeks apart. People made the hour and a half trip to my cousins wedding that was in July but did not go to my sisters wedding 2 hours away in August. It was my dads family who did it. You just have to realize that the people who mean the most to you will be there and make every effort to go!

I'm sorry you are hurt by your family's seemingly insensitivity. it's not bad to think the way you are because that's how you feel but just like the reason's your family members have given you are how they feel. It sounds like it's not so much that you are less important so much that your cousin's ceremony is more in line with what they feel a wedding celebration should be not to mention there's a lot to be said for people who aren't hypocritical and pretend they like or want something when it's not how they feel. Look at it this way, for those who don't like your FH, there won't be any tension on your beautiful day from that faction. Hang in there and try not to focus on what you can't change and focus on what is the most important part of that day and that is becoming the life partner of the man you love.

Awwwww dont let that ruin your day!! My cousin is getting married the weekend before us (sept 29)and another cousin a month before her!! even though i had my date FIRST but i said hey if they come cool if they dont -- i can hold a grudge and make them feel itty bitty hahahaha

Oh my god. i would not go to your cousins wedding. that sounds like a horrid time!

dont let those people get you down! your wedding is going to be awesome and fun and at the end of the night, you'll be happy that the people that really love you and care about you came!

Me and my sister are having our weddings a month apart and I'm sure I'll have some guests choose but if they truly love and care about you they wouldn't....I know for a fact that my aunts and cousins will be at both weddings and that's how it should be - don't let it ruin your day though in the end you are marrying your best friend and that's all that matters!

Had we kept our date last year I would of "competed" not with a cousin but my niece who's anniversary is like 6 days before our wedding date. I would of had to choose to finish my preps or go to CA. Which I didn't go anyway since I never received a invitation.

The same thing is happening with me.

I love Jasmine's quote: "Those that matter won't mind, and those that mind don't matter."

I am sorry you have to go through this. If it makes a difference, I would much rather attend your wedding.

Amen Carole I go by that quote for everyday life. If they don't wanna attend your wedding then shame on them.

I guess that makes some sense as to why my mom was pissed when my cousin got engaged after me and planned the wedding for 2 weeks before. Again she is allowing kids, I am not. Her wedding is tops 2 hrs from them mine is 6 hrs away.

Gotta let it roll off your back my mom was kinda pissed but I could care less. If they don't come I guess I know who the ones who really care about me are.

Update on my cousin's wedding.... And...oh my gosh!!!!

The ceremony was and hour and a half! By the time the ceremony was over most people just wanted to say their congrats and get out! Which is exactly what we did. All the had for the reception was cake and punch. No music or anything.

From what I understand everyone left within a couple hours of us.

I think FH said it best saying that our wedding is going to be a lot more "redneck" but our is also going to be a lot more fun!!