Favors

I'm not doing them. Not to sound crass but we just don't have the budget for it. We want a lot of people there so we're cutting other costs to be able to have both families there.

That was part of our issue too. Both my fiance and I are from divorced families, and 3 of the 4 parents have remarried so we have a huge family to accommodate.

We're actually doing a s'mores bar as our dessert. We thought it was an awesome idea to give people who don't really dance something to do and people can customize them to their tastes. Plus our venue offers it as an option for us, so it was one less vendor for us to outsource, which we loved.

I was on the fence about doing favors as well. It hasn't been easy finding something that wasn't tacky or that would be eaten and forgot about right away. After reading the other comments here, I think I will opt out. It is an extra expense I wasn't looking forward to anyway.

I think for the most part people don't like favors. You Do Not Have to do favors. We are doing Affy Tapples. I wanted something people would want and that I had not seen a million times. I had a friend who did candy bars and used them as the centerpieces for each table. So one table had Snickers, one had M&M's etc. Favors can cost a great deal of money but with anything you don't have to do anything you don't want! It's your day and it should be a reflection of who you two are.

Lots of people skip them; we decided we'd like to do them. We're getting married in a garden, have a minimalist- nature inspired theme, and the huge majority of our guests are outdoorsy / rural. We're having these custom seed packet favors made with wildflower seeds, which come to less than $1 each on Etsy.

In my culture and the way I was brought up it is absolutely rude to not give a favor. It's completely up to you though. I personally look forward to favors and I would find it odd not to get one and trust me I notice. I never really thought a favor was crap until I saw my friend give little jars of hersey kisses because I hate hersey kisses. I took my favor for the jar itself lol.

Edit: Opting to skip favors is probably becoming a very regional type thing. Nobody I know here in PA has skipped favors.

We go back and forth! Since many of our guests will be flying in, we're thinking of putting a bottle of wine with a custom wine label in their hotel rooms. We've been talking to Northwest Cellars. Not 100% sure yet but that's the route I think we are going to take.

But I think either way is totally acceptable these days!

We aren't doing any and using that cost for center pieces from our venue so I don't have to worry about setting anything up.

I don't think they are necessary. I may not do them either. If I do it'll be something simple and food related.

I think this is something that is completely up to you! My FH and I decided to for go it for exactly the same reason. I think that literally any favor I have gotten in the last year or so we have either found in our cars or my purse months later, or we throw them out immediately. Just felt like a waste of money to us.

We also decided not to give favors. Nobody wants something with our names/wedding dates on it. It will get thrown out or stuffed in a drawer, or left behind. It just wasn't worth it to spend the money on that for us. We may do take out boxes so people can take donuts home if they would like.

They are unnecessary, and if you're considering doing them, keep it simple. Most of the time they're not taken. That being said, I didn't have any left over favors at my wedding (much to my surprise)! My joint favor/escort card combo went over surprisingly well.