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Faux Pas or Nah: Texting the bride or groom on the wedding day?

Kelly, on February 26, 2019 at 11:05 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 66
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How do you feel about texting the bride or groom on the wedding day? Do you think you should ask someone else and not bother them? Or do you think it’s ok to send a sweet message the morning of the wedding day to be nice or texting with last minute updates?


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Latest activity by Jana, on May 8, 2020 at 11:36 PM
  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
    Gen ·
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    I think it depends on what you’re texting them about. A nice “have an amazing day” is sweet but I don’t think you should send them any texts with questions or things that you expect them to respond to!
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  • Formerbride
    VIP June 2019
    Formerbride ·
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    Please don't text me on my wedding day.

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  • Kiki
    Super May 2019
    Kiki ·
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    Agree with Gen! As long as whatever you're texting doesn't require a response.

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  • LB
    Champion November 2016
    LB ·
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    Unless you're intimately involved in the planning and execution, leave the bride/groom alone.

    Faux Pas

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  • Danielle K
    VIP June 2019
    Danielle K ·
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    Faux Pa unless it really is urgent. Don't blow up there phone though and if there is someone else you can contact do that instead.

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  • Alexandra
    VIP June 2019
    Alexandra ·
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    Faux pas, unless you're FH, my parents, my FILs, a bridesmaid, or a groomsman! Text someone else if you need a response or text me the next day if it's just a sweet message.

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  • Mrs. H
    Master September 2019
    Mrs. H ·
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    Send me a sweet message, sure. Don't bother me with questions.

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  • Nemo
    Master August 2018
    Nemo ·
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    Huge faux pas. I got texts from people on my wedding day and it was really annoying.

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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I don’t even plan to have my phone with me on my wedding day. No thank you.
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  • JustKidding
    VIP April 2018
    JustKidding ·
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    Same.

    Lucky for me, no one bothered me. If someone had asked any questions that could have been found on their invite, they would have been ignored.

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  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
    Danielle ·
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    It'd depend on the bride. For me, I wouldn't be bothered by general texts on the day; maybe even a few questions from guests. The only texts that would bother me are the ones involving little details that the DOC can handle. That is why I hired one, after all.

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  • Rachel
    Super May 2019
    Rachel ·
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    Text all you want...I won't be answering! I personally would never text the bride unless I was a bridesmaid and I was asking her what kind of coffee & pastry she wants.

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  • J
    Savvy May 2019
    Jane ·
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    I think it depends. I don’t see the big deal with a friend or family member texting me the day off.
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  • Nikita
    VIP April 2019
    Nikita ·
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    I wouldn't think it's a faux pas. But if you expect a reply in a timely manner, that's a bit stupid.

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  • Alicia
    VIP August 2019
    Alicia ·
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    Definitely situational. If you're texting for directions (i. e. Meredith from "The Office") that is a huge problem. However, if you are texting them a sweet little note about the special day and don't expect a response, I think that's definitely acceptable!

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  • Abby
    VIP March 2019
    Abby ·
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    If it's a sweet message then I don't see a problem with it but if it's with questions that can be asked to someone else, then I'd say faux pas.
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  • Jen
    Super May 2018
    Jen ·
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    Faux pas. Unless you're involved in the wedding there is no reason for you to text the bride or groom on their wedding day. And if you must, don't expect them to answer.

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  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
    MrsV1027 ·
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    Uggghhhh my mother gave my number to some of her friends and they were blowing my phone up the morning of. It was part sweet and part super annoying esp since now these people all have my number

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  • Carol
    Dedicated June 2020
    Carol ·
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    You can send them, however, we won't have our phone on us that day. We will read them the next lol

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  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
    Chandra ·
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    Sweet messages are okay. If people have other questions/get lost/need help...find somebody else!! I'll probably be passing off my phone to somebody else after getting ready so I wont very bothered too much.
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