Faux Pas or Nah: Planning your own bachelor/ette party?

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Aww, that is such a cute idea, Rachel! Are you planning a weekend for yourself like your friend or are you hoping for a bach party?

This is another situational one. In general, yes it's not a good idea to plan it yourself. But I do think you should have some involvement and there are exceptions. My friend booked the hotel for hers recently (we had all already decided on time, place, and price). Her MOH was crammed with work, and she had a higher credit limit than the MOH, so it was nice of her to just go ahead and do it. She did a couple more things too. Very innocent. Just excited.

For mine, my MOH just ran a few ideas by me then left me out of it. But I knew all the major events.

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I am actually letting a friend plan stuff - my MOH and he are coordinating and I'll just be surprised!

Faux pas. If you have a MOH and bridesmaids, they should plan it. Or a family memboer or close friends if you don’t have a bridal party. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with doing it yourself if you want to though. I feel the same way with babyshowers

I am not planning mine! Still old school and want to be surprised!

I am personally not doing a bachelorette party. I am have a private shopping party and also my maid of honor who is a best friend and I will got to the beach for the weekend.

Nah. Sometimes people need a little help planning it, and the bride or groom might have to step in.

Faux Pas. You arent supposed to plan extra things for yourself and a bach is definitely not a necessity so you shouldnt plan it. The only necessities for a wedding are the ceremony and a reception to thank your guests for coming (cause its rude to ask people to come out to see a major life event and not feed them after). Any other party is a bonus that you should be thankful for if someone wants to throw one for you but you shouldnt expect them.

It is ok to answer any direct questions the planner has about what you would like or when you are free or who is invited to the wedding who would be appropriate to invite to that party too, but that's all.

I think it could be a faux pas but i also understand why sometimes a bride would do so. I personally don't want one anyway but for those who do, if it's something they feel they need to do, there's USUALLY a reason.

Never thought about having a bachelorette party. My friends are big party animals. We'd rather just get together, drink wine, and watch TV or something.

I think this one is a faux pas. I’m already going to be stressed enough planning the actual wedding and I know if there’s one thing my girls know how to do it is Plan a partay! 😜

My bridesmaids let me help plan the major pieces for my destination bachelorette. They let me pick where I wanted to go and who I wanted there. Since I'm the planner in our group of friends I was also allowed to get them in touch with a travel agent I use a lot and help find the best flights.

Everything else once we get there I am in the dark about, which is kind of exciting

I don’t think that’s a bad thing

I half planned my own. 3 out of the 4 of my bridesmaids are finishing up their senior year of college so they are very busy at the moment. Therefore I pretty much asserted myself and said I would pick when and where to go. They were all ok with this because it meant we were actually going to go somewhere I wanted instead of them guessing. However, now that we have dates and a place picked they will NOT let me have any other knowledge of what's happening with my party.

I don’t want to plan it. At all. But my maid of honor is in Europe traveling and far away. Annoying so I don’t think I’ll have one

Personally, I am in between. My FH is planning his own because his groomsmen would not know what he wants. No strippers or whatever the typical is. He wants to go to 70,000 Tons of Metal of Metal fest in Slovenia. As for me, I think my MOH knows me well enough to plan what I'd like, since we are both similar in a lot of situations.

Nah
I planned my own or well I helped plan . It was nice knowing what was happening

I think it honestly depends on the party, but for bachelorette, seems weird to plan by yourself.

I think it is ok for the bride to plan it if she is paying for it.

I never do things the way they're supposed to, so I already told my MoH that I want to go to my favorite Japanese restaurant and rent out their tea room for my pre-wedding party (I'm a little late to do a bachelorette AND a bridal, so I figured we'll just do one). So since that's what I'm doing, I'm thinking that's probably what you're NOT supposed to do lol.