Faux Pas or Nah: Planning your own bachelor/ette party?

I planned my own as I wanted to pay for it because my wedding is already a destination wedding so I didn't want to put anymore cost on my bridal party.

Faux pas (at least usually). I could see in some instances where it would be appropriate to plan your own! For me, I had a say in the early stages of planning (dates, location, guest list) and then have been left in the dark since

Faux Pas BUT YOU CAN HELP WITH LOGISTICS

Eh, this could go either way too IMO. FH's cousins and my mom are planning/throwing mine, but they have asked for my input/help in planning certain aspects (i.e., coordinating dates, activities, etc.)

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I agree completely! What's the point of a bach party if the person you're celebrating can't come?! Or what if you accidentally invite someone they have a long history of family feuding with?

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That's really consider of you, Kiki!! Are you having your bach party before you head off to your destination wedding or are you having it at the destination in the days before your wedding?

Faux Pas.

You don't plan your own parties.

Eh, it's just so attention hungry to me. Like you aren't getting enough attention having a wedding you need to plan another day for yourself to have all eyes on you...

Faux Pas.

Ehhh....I think this is leaning towards faux pas, but depending on the circumstances can go either way. Maybe not plan your own party, but instead HELP WITH the planning.

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Before we go!

Booked an Air BnB in my city so we can all stay together and going to do dinner and drinks with my bridal party, Mom and MIL.

My bridal shower will be the next day and my Mom has planned that.

If your party wants to plan it for you, then they should be allowed to. If they're all really busy with jobs, kids, whatever, then there is no reason to not plan it yourself. But I do think if someone really wants to plan it for you, you should let them. I don't think there is a rule here one way or the other.

If it's one of the "rare" situations where it makes sense for the bride to plan her own, I think she needs to pay for it (as pp mentioned she is). I think where this goes seriously wrong is when anyone plans a party for themselves and expects the "guests" to PAY for it. There's no way around that being incredibly rude in my book.

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Oh, that sounds like so much fun, Kiki!!

If a bride wants to get all of her girls together to do something fun and call it a bachelorette party there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. As long as she doesn't expect her bridal party to pay.

I helped plan it WITH my bridesmaids who could go. Theres nothing wrong with lending a hand, especially if you want to help. Has absolutely nothing to do with being "attention hungry". Just like some brides like to have some input on their shower. If my moh asks what activities i want to do on my bach, or what color flowers i want at my shower im absolutely going to chime in and better yet help them execute.

My DH planned mine and he and his friend planned his. I don't really see a big problem with it unless you plan it and expect people to shell out a ton of money for it.

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Helping plan or giving your opinion is 100% different than planning your own party.

As long as everyone is in agreement with financials and it’s not a gift giving event, I think it’s ok to plan this yourself or at least help with the planning. For mine, it’s in the hands of my maid of honor, but I throw little ideas and stuff at her here and there

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Ill agree to disagree.

thanks though

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Your bach was in Vegas like your wedding, right MrsV? Do you think that having your bach at your destination makes things different or no?