Maggie
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Faux Pas or Nah: Having a gap between your ceremony and reception?

Maggie, on February 26, 2019 at 11:05 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 60
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How do you feel about having a gap between the wedding ceremony and reception? Do you think it’s a faux pas to leave your guests to entertain themselves in between your ceremony and reception? Or have you been to lots of weddings with a gap and find this fairly normal?

Where do you stand on this one? Is having a gap between the ceremony and reception a faux pas or nah?


Faux Pas or Nah: Having a gap between your ceremony and reception? 1

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  • Alexandra
    VIP June 2019
    Alexandra ·
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    Faux pas, for sure! For me, the exception is a cocktail hour which is totally appropriate! I've only been to one with a gap and I really didn't enjoy it.

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  • Danielle K
    VIP June 2019
    Danielle K ·
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    NAH there are many reasons for a gap

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  • Mrs. H
    Master September 2019
    Mrs. H ·
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    Depends how long the gap is… if you are traveling to the reception location, I see nothing wrong with having a 1 hour (at most) gap.

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  • Formerbride
    VIP June 2019
    Formerbride ·
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    It's their wedding. If you get the invitation and it doesn't suit you, don't go. I have ceremony and reception in one location so it doesn't apply to me.

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  • LB
    Champion November 2016
    LB ·
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    I've never been to a wedding with a gap and didn't even know that was a thing before WW.

    Faux Pas for sure.

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  • JustKidding
    VIP April 2018
    JustKidding ·
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    Depends on the gap. Anything over an hour is rude.

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  • Maggie
    Champion October 2025
    Maggie ·
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    I would agree, JustKidding. If you fill the gap with a happy hour, I'm even better. Smiley laugh

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  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
    Danielle ·
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    I've never been to a wedding that had a gap in between, so I'd have to say faux pas. BUT some B&G's can't help it, so it is what it is. I just think if I were a guest, I might not attend the reception because I was ready to go home by that point.

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  • Rachel
    Super May 2019
    Rachel ·
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    I don't mind long gaps. There have bee church weddings that I would wear one thing to for the ceremony then I would go home and change for the reception. Or I'll go grab drinks with friends. A long gap has never bothered me.

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  • Alicia
    VIP August 2019
    Alicia ·
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    I think this is definitely situational. There are many reasons to have a gap between the two, and I think it's very common to have a gap in between.

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  • Abby
    VIP March 2019
    Abby ·
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    As long as the gap is no more then an hour or two. Otherwise I'd say faux pas.
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  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
    MrsV1027 ·
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    It's super annoying as a guest unless there's a nice cocktail hour with appetizers but it's pretty hard to avoid if you want pictures and don't take them all before the ceremony.

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  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
    Chandra ·
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    Well apparently I'm a super rude bride because we have a gap that is about an hour and a half between the ceremony and the cocktail hour. But they're at 2 locations so we had to account for travel time and we did the latest we could for the ceremony (2:30) and earliest for reception (5pm).
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  • Kristen
    VIP April 2020
    Kristen ·
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    Faux pas if it's much longer than necessary travel time, or if it isn't filled with cocktail hour. One of the reasons FH and I went with a venue that we could have ceremony & reception at

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  • Maggie
    Champion October 2025
    Maggie ·
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    Do you know if you'll be having a gap between your ceremony and reception, Alicia?

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  • Becca
    Super August 2019
    Becca ·
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    I think it depends. If there are things to do nearby or if the hotel is right there, having a break would be fine. If you’re stuff with a gap though that’s a couple hours long and then there’s nothing to do, then I think planning should have been done a bit better
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  • Melissa
    VIP October 2018
    Melissa ·
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    Nah. A gap is nice, especially for a Friday wedding like ours! The gap gave us time to get from point a to point b, take a few extra pictures, and it gave those who couldn't get out of work early on Friday and attend the ceremony enough time to at least get to the reception.

    A gap is fine, it's the EXTENDED gaps that drive me crazy. Recently attended a wedding where the gap was nearly 4 hours! 2pm ceremony, cocktail hour at 6:30. On a Saturday. And on top of that, the dinner was so small, everyone was still starving by the time dinner was over. If you're going to have a gap like THAT, maybe tell your guests to go grab some food Smiley winking


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  • Tara
    Master May 2020
    Tara ·
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    Nah, Guests should be warned by the invites with how long the gap is.
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  • Alicia
    VIP August 2019
    Alicia ·
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    There will be a little gap, because we are doing pictures after the ceremony, however everything is on the same grounds, so it shouldn't be too long. We are having lawn games and snacks during that time for our guests so they don't get bored!

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  • Angerra
    VIP August 2019
    Angerra ·
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    I believe it's a faux pas to have a gap that's more than 1-1.5 hrs. It's called a cocktail HOUR for a reason.
    I'm sure most guests understand that the bride and groom and wedding party have to take pictures. However, to leave your guests for an extended amount of time is just inconsiderate.
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