Farewell Breakfast...to pay or not to pay that is the question.

Perhaps you could do a word of mouth thing instead of an official invite? Like... put your BMs in charge of it and have them say "we're all thinking of doing breakfast with them at such and such time and it's ONLY x amount!!" I feel like when you send out invites that's when it starts to get shaky on the etiquette, because then you are hosting it. Perhaps if you really wanted you could put a note online about it

Ooh I will checking for answers because I also would like input on this question. It will be pricey to pay for a group and I'm gonna need all the honeymoon money I can hold on to!

I honestly don't think what you typed out is rude at all!

There's a farewell breakfast too? Did not know that. LOL guess I will be following this one too.

I don't think you HAVE to do a farewell breakfast. It is just that everyone is traveling out of town for our wedding (Married in NH and most people are driving or flying in from VA) so we wanted to try and give them as many chances to a) see us since that is one of the reasons they are coming to celebrate our wedding and marriage and (b) stuff for them to do so they don't feel like the drove 12-15 hours for some chicken and dancing. I just really want people to have a good time. The thing is between the rehearsal dinner (which I am still trying to debate if you invite everyone), the actual ceremony and the after party (granted we are just paying for a few apps) and a trolley to make sure no one drinks and drives...it is just getting to be a lot.

Were just doing the breakfast at home. cheap enough.

That would be perfect but my moms home would be the closest at 2 hours away. :-(

I do not think that you need to pay for breakfast. I agree with NAB and have the breakfast mentioned through word of mouth and have it be casual. If you were to send out in invitation then I would think that you should pay. Another idea is that you could even send an email out saying "Just to let you all know there is going to be a breakfest on Sunday morning. If you would like to join us and see us before you go home, you are more then welcome to come. The prices is XXX a person."

We're doing a brunch the day after our ceremony & reception; we want to spend a fair amount of time with people since it's a DW. The brunch is listed on the "other events" section of our website and specifies the price per person (we're doing the Bellagio buffet). As NAB said, the one thing you can't do is put it in the invites themselves, because then it looks like you're hosting it.

@Jaemi lol "chicken and dancing"! I too am going to have a farewell breakfast but am not planning on paying for it. No invites, just in one of our speeches during the wedding we'll just tell everyone where we will be and at what time, and if people want to join us fine, if not fine.

@Hillary- I didn't even see that!! Fantastic!! I wasn't planning on doing invites just more along the lines of what Cabell said "other events" on the web-site or information in the hotel room.

@Cabell mmmm Bellagio buffet...mmmm...Vegas.... :-D

It's only $4 extra for unlimited champagne at brunch! Well, "champagne," but who cares. :p

Check to see if the hotel you're staying at does a complimentary breakfast. You're spending money at the hotel anyway, they may be willing to throw some perks your way.

Also, FutureMrsCarr, the farewell breakfast is good if you have a bunch of people coming in from out of town that you don't get to see very often. Odds are, you'll be flitting around from table to table at the actual wedding and won't be able to spend a lot of time with any one person or group. The farewell breakfast is a great way to catch up with the folks who came out to celebrate your day!

We will be doing a "day after brunch" for my daughters wedding. The invitations will be very informal and will state the price per person. We will list hours as well, so people can come and go as they need.

I do not think it is tacky or rude at all to ask people to pay for their own breakfast. You will have already provided them with a great time at the wedding and reception. ;-)

Lots of good comments! Be careful of the "come and join us" or "come say goodbye", because it might sound like you're hosting (as in paying). Word of mouth might not get to everyone, so an informal note in the invitation (this way they know ahead of time) could say something like "for those of you who will still be in NH Sunday morning, some of the guests will be gathering for breakfast at the "XX" at 9 a.m. We plan to be there,too! Entrees are $7 - $15" Well, not the best wording, but I think you get the idea.