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Family Member is a Wedding Planner...utilize her?

Taylor, on August 7, 2019 at 10:39 PM Posted in Planning 0 8

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Hello!

So I have a distant family member who is somewhat a wedding planner. She hosts weddings in her B&B all the time and helps with all of the day of coordinating. Basically, she knows what she’s doing when it comes to little organizational things!
My family mentioned that we should recruit her help, as we are doing mostly DIY. While I would love and appreciate help from someone who has more insider wedding knowledge, I have some concerns.
1. I’m not very close with her, so I’m not sure if I’d be super comfortable with working with her on my ideas.
2. She’s a bit pushy, so while she would be a great help, I question if she will be controlling.
3. We also have several other “control freaks” in the family, so I stress about all of them butting heads!!
What do you think? Any advice on using a wedding planner who is also a family member?

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Latest activity by Dana, on August 9, 2019 at 12:32 AM

Champion August 2017
Mrsbdg · on August 7, 2019 at 10:56 PM
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No no no no no no.

Dont mix family (even distant) and business. Friend-ors rarely work out for the best.
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Master July 2019
Hannah · on August 7, 2019 at 11:02 PM
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I wouldn't approach her about it. If she offers, it may be nice to at least sit down with her and get idea of like the top 10 things brides overlook or forget or whatever. However, I definitely wouldn't feel comfortable calling up a distant relative I don't have a close relationship with and asking for wedding planning help.
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Super July 2020
D · on August 7, 2019 at 11:55 PM
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This would be a pass for me. Too much family involvement all around.
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Devoted August 2021
· on August 8, 2019 at 12:04 AM
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I would say don’t use her, your list sounds like reasons why it would stress you out more then help. I’d say if you need a coordinator hire your own. Not worth the drama.
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Savvy September 2021
Taylor · on August 8, 2019 at 4:54 AM
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Thanks all! I definitely agree. I’m struggling a lot with when to take my families advice on these things, and when I should absolutely say no!
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VIP October 2020
Kelly · on August 8, 2019 at 8:58 AM
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I think you shouldn't mix family and business, especially if the woman herself did not ask.
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Master December 2019
Cher Horowitz · on August 8, 2019 at 10:52 PM
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I would pass on this, especially if you're not that close to her!
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Super September 2019
Dana · on August 9, 2019 at 12:32 AM
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UTILIZE HER !!! People have been mentioning little things to me that I didnt even think of because I am so focused on other things
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