Family drama

I feel like I've offered you a reasonable solution to your problem twice now, and yet... You continue to avoid it.

I don't like that you plan to replace her. BPs don't need to be even and you should either have her or not, but not sub someone in.

But as far as your sister goes, I feel that she is behaving poorly. Unless there is more to the story, it sounds like she is being irrational. Is the dress just not her taste or is it something she feels uncomfortable in (like too low cut, too short, too tight, etc)? If she just doesn't like it, tough luck. If she doesn't feel comfortable wearing it, that's another thing and you should work with her.

You could do her in a diff color just same style length and material as the others my bridesmaids are all doing lime green but my maid of honor red our colors are gray white and lime green with a splash of red

What do the dresses look like?

I mean, it sounds like she may not budge. So it's up to you: at the end of the day, what's more important to you - having your sister standing next to you as your maid of honor on your wedding day or what she's wearing?

Sorry about that Alexis not ignoring you. Yes i have

offered to even buy the dress and she still said that she wouldnt wear it. It has flowers on it. I even said that we can just take them off since that is the part that she doesnt like. She still said no. My BF was in the wedding so i just made her MO. Im not repacing my sister for say. Just adding another person to the party. This occured on 4/15 and i just asked the repacement last week.

Oh so you've already replaced her?

Do you have a picture of the dress?

Ok the dress is very different from the typical bridesmaid's dress. But it is very complementary to everyones body type. That is one thing that I did make sure of cause at the fitting i have someone who was petite, average size and a person that was heavier and all differnt heights. The dress looked good on everyone. The bridesmaids picked it out themselves. I was uncomfortable with the price but five out of seven of them bought it right then on the site. So that just left her and one other person. I took picks of all of them in the dress to show everyone how it complented everyone and it could be altered if needed. She just responded that she hates it. She wants to wear something different.

I'm glad it's flattering on your bridesmaids. A picture would be extremely helpful.

Maybe if we see the dress, we can give suggestions for dresses that would match that your sister could pick from since you don't like her alternate choices?

She sounds immature. I can't get the dress i want so i will opt out. What else is she going to request and blackmail you with opting out.

I get people saying compromise, but at the same time I can't imagine a family member telling me they wouldn't be in my wedding because they didn't like the dress selection... Like wtf? Unless I thought something might "pop out" I would wear whatever (no matter how ugly) as long as I could afford it. I wouldn't agree to be in the bridal party if I didn't love the person. Maybe that's just me.

You're either adding someone additional or replacing her, they're totally different things and the latter is rude and hurtful.

I agree a picture of the dress would be helpful. Also, am I understanding right that you have two MOHs? Because if so, they could both wear slightly different dresses of the same color scheme (or if your wedding as more than one color one of the colors from that pallet) and the same fabric and length and it's fine. That could be an easy compromise? I do think that you should try to find a way to compromise with her, even though she is being difficult (though I also would be hesitant with a dress I'd be uncomfortable in). Is she concerned about the fit? Does it make her feel self conscious? Just because something fits well doesn't mean it always makes someone feel great in it.

How about letting her select a dress in the same color with just a slight difference?

As Idk what else options you have since you offered to buy the dress, and alter the dress because she doesn't like the flowers on it.

Was *she* ok with the price point? Since you said it was high maybe she just doesn't want to admit she can't afford it? The first step should always be to ask every girl separately what her budget is and then stay under the lowest number or cover the difference yourself.

Looking for the pics got a new phone no pics uploaded. My mom and aunt and best friend have all tried to reach out to talk to her. She told them that she doesnt care what they said she is out. They were crying so she hung up on them called them back and asked are you done crying yet? She onlybwants to hear that she is right and she can pick out her own dress. BTW she didnt invite us to her wedding not even my mother.

Let her pick her own dress.

Yikes, reading your latest on her she sounds like a peach. Why would you ask her to be your MOH in the first place?