Family drama

Your wedding, your choice.. Not hers!

You have a replacement for her? Not a good move.

Can she do the same color in a different style as a compromise? Not sure if that's an option.

Either way, having a replacement maid of honor on standby for your sister is not a great idea.

I thought so but its kind of hard to see myself up there without her by my side. I just want to keep peace.

Has your relationship always been like this with her? Was she not included in this decision with the other bridesmaids, and if so, why not? I wouldn't want to spend a bunch of money on a dress I didn't like either. Have you offered to pay for the dress and alterations yourself? Might want to try that...

Was she not included in the dress selection? Did she choose not to be a part of the dress selection and is now complaining? Did you ask her about her dress budget before a dress was picked, or is she fine with the price so long as she likes the dress? If she was given the opportunity to help select the dress and the dress is within the dress budget she had previously agreed to, she's being unreasonable. However, I think a dress is such as small thing to lose your MOH over. Would it really be so bad if she wore a dress in the same color that was slightly different? Just a thought.

Regardless of whether she decides to stay in your BP, it would be wildly inappropriate to replace her with another person.

Your day not yours

Why don't you let her pick a similar fabric, length, and color and she can pick the style. Compromise! Your l bridesmaids aren't props, if she's your sister and closest to you, why can't you let her have a slightly different dress?

Do not replace her.

Is a dress or your sister more important to you?

I would say if she's your maid of honor why not give her the option of same color, same length but whatever style she feels good in? It's ok to have different dresses. She is acting like a brat tho.

Sour thumb made me literally LOL.

It seems like she being a but unreasonable but could you just pick a new dress?

I also hate that you have a replacement ready to go and buy the dress. If you wanted this person in the wedding they should have been there from the start

I have mixed views because you should want to help her be comfortable, but someone willing to opt our like this would have me feeling some type of way. Remember the days when all BM dresses were ugly as all hell. I'm spiteful so I know how I would be but that might not end well. I wish you the best she really is being unfair to you.

Its a matter of what's important to you. When I asked my sister to be my MOH, it was more important to me to have her standing next to me when I was getting married than for her to look any specific way. In my sister's case she doesn't wear dresses (literally I hadn't seen her in a dress for over 20 years) so I told her if she was more comfortable in pants she could find a nice pant suit or even wear a tux. In my case she decided that she would wear a dress.

Personally, I think person trumps "vision" and I would try to find a compromise. Maybe she can be in the same color and similar style without being exactly the same as the bridesmaids (it's honestly not that unusual). Also, please do not "replace" her if she opts to not be in the wedding. If someone is important enough to be your MOH, that person should have been asked to be in your bridal party to begin with. You are sending the message that she is not as meaningful as your sister is. You can just have one of the bridesmaids step in to stand next to you and help you as the MOH would have.

The replacement for her is my best friend for the past twenty five years who is closer to me that my sister and is just like my sister. I have an extra person to even out the bridemaids to groomsmen ratio. And no she was not a part of the selection od the gress due to her being in another state. She said that its not the price she just hates the dress. But everyone else loves it except for her. All of the dresses that she has picked out is like regular basic dresses while the other dress is very elegant and a unique color. She wants to even wear a different color dress.

She is you SISTER.

Yes, compromise with her!! Sheesh.

Have you offered to pay for the dress?

What is more important, your sister or that dress?

That's honestly the only question you need to answer. If it's your sister, let her pick what she's comfortable in that's in the same color. If it's the dress...yikes.

My relation with her has been okay. She has always been a little bit selfish but i wouldnt have expected her to respond like this. She is used to always getting her way and bring very oppionionated and a little rude i dont think that its even about the dress though she just wants to get her way like all ways.

I can't get past the fact that you have a replacement lined up for your SISTER. Wow.

I'd send her links of dresses that are in the right color and let her pick one that coordinates with the dress the other girls selected.

I am failing to understand why your best friend of 25 years was not initially included in your BP.