Etiquette rules: new users read and comment

@Rand, Emily Post literally wrote the book on etiquette. Her family has continued the legacy and while I cannot gurantee they aren't influenced by outside funding, they do not advertise on their page. They provide advice on how to still follow etiquette even if a couple is asking for cash. There is a way to do it. They do provide a disclaimer that many, may still take offense and/or prefer to purchase a physical gift. So any honeyfund should be part of a registry, not THE only registry. And NEVER put any sort of registry info in with wedding invites. Share by word of mouth or on the wedding website.

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Edit: reminding myself it's not worth it

A lot of people come back to WW after being married, otherwise we'd have the blind leading the blind.

Emily Post's business was taken over by her family, and a business it is.

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1. A wedding gift isn't required

2. The fee is still taken out of the amount your guest intended to give so you're not getting the full amount.

3. Even if people don't have checks they still know how to get cash to put in a card.

It seems to slip peoples' minds that users come here *voluntarily*. WW isn't going to the newly engaged and demanding to be told about their wedding plans. If one doesn't like the way that WW is set up, or what the members have to say, there are plenty of other wedding forums out there.

(*Not* telling anyone to leave, just pointing out that there are options.)

People need to stop insisting having a dry wedding is rude or torture to the guest. If the bride and groom do not want to have alcohol at their wedding that is their choice and you should NOT make them feel bad about it

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@PU THE MY DO NOT HAVE TO GET YOU A WEDDING GIFT

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Are people having their weddings based off of what you and your FH wants or what you think your guest will enjoy?

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Guests comfort should be a priority. Which includes, but is not limited to: free food, free booze, a chair to sit in, and a comfortable climate.

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@beatrice @futurerand We (as in you and I, as hosts) are paying presumably over $100 for their dinner and drinks yeaaahhhhh they dooooo have to get us a gift. Ha!!

And cash in a card? hellllll no. Do you know how much gets stolen from weddings? This is why brides had to come up with cute locked card boxes. It's awful. People don't want to risk that.

Online hosts like Zola etc make it so much easier for people to scan through traditional registry gifts and then if they don't see something or really had their heart set on a monetary gift they can just give money right there.

The fee isn't even that much it's like a buck or two. A new check book is $10.

And I just want to reiterate: a gift is ABSOLUTELY required. It's even considered proper etiquette to send a gift if you decline an invite though I obviously would never call someone on that. Just saying.

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She's right. Dry weddings are not rude or tacky, for whatever reason lies behind the decision. They are a preference.....albeit, not the popular choice. The best advice, know your crowd and plan the wedding type that best suites a dry wedding.