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DW-marry before or after?

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MexicoinMarch, on July 19, 2017 at 12:45 PM

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For our DW we have decided that we will have a symbolic ceremony in Mexico (our guests know this) and get married legally at the court house. Can any speak to pros/cons of getting married before the DW? after the DW? We aren't sure which way to do it. My thought process-marry before we go so that...

My thought process-marry before we go so that legally we are married, in case anything were to happy while out of the country. But that downside is, we will already be married when we get "married".

If you are anti-symbolic wedding please don't be hateful. We have our minds made up

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Super November 2019
Tricia · on July 23, 2017 at 10:35 AM
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We are doing just that. Courthouse wedding in our hometown and destination wedding in SC.
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Elizabeth · on July 23, 2017 at 10:36 AM
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"They actually didn't tell anyone about the courthouse one - we only knew because we were their witnesses. It was just the 4 of us at the courthouse."

Ugh, your friend is rude AF. People should NEVER lie to their guests. If your guests know, I have no problem with destination symbolic ceremonies.

Also, I happen to agree with Kaitlyn. As someone who waited almost two decades to legally marry her wife, "just paperwork" means a hell of a lot.
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Devoted September 2017
MarriedSoon · on July 23, 2017 at 10:51 AM
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The rules are different in every state. There are states with no expiration but of the 5 I looked at, I saw mostly 60 and a 90 day. There are also states with waiting periods. Some officiants supply a witness to officiate. Either way "the paperwork" has been started with the governing body and your officiant signs and submits the signed license after the wedding to make it official, so getting married is technically a process and it's not in a day or just the ceremony.
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Dedicated July 2018
Laura · on July 23, 2017 at 3:32 PM
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So according to the negative comments here the actual wedding is not when you exchange vows and verbally commit to each other, it's when you sign the marriage license with the officiant. So why do any of these people go to ceremonies? They should just be going to the part often day where the couple signs their marriage certificate, because celebrating with people is apparently not okay?!? Ridiculous. We are getting married in South Africa. This is where we will commit to each other and share our vows, we will make it legal in the states because that is what we were advised to do to make sure our marriage was legal easily. We will be doing this before we leave for South Africa. Celebrating with my FH, and exchanging our vows is when I will be married to him. The government's paperwork is is exactly that, paperwork.
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