Dropped out bridesmaid; 18 days till wedding

I'm sorry to hear that a bridesmaid dropped out! It's OK to have an uneven number in the wedding party, so I wouldn't try to replace her. You could just have one bridesmaid walk down the aisle with two groomsmen.

Take a deep breath! Try to relax! It’s not unheard to have an uneven amount in the bridal party. I had a total of 3 & my husband had 2- it looked fine. Your wedding is going to be awesome!

Try not to let this consume you! Trust me - your guests will hardly notice that the numbers are uneven. Just try to let it blow over and focus on other things!

Let the sides be uneven, it will be fine.

Uneven sides are actually really common! Photographers will have no problem making the photos look balanced, and guests will never think twice about it. One bridesmaid can walk with two groomsmen in the recessional or for introductions so no one has to walk alone.

You could have 2 groomsmen walk with a girl. Try not to stress about it this close to the wedding. We are actually wedding date twins and I almost had to drop one of mine and this is what I was going to go with.

Wow I'm so sorry. What an awful thing to do so close to the wedding. For my first wedding we had an uneven number and it was fine. We were having them walk together down the aisle so we just had the last 2 sets accompany 2 bridesmaids instead of one. One on each arm.

I completely understand this!
I've had a total of 3 bridesmaids drop out during the duration of planning, the last one who dropped out decided to do so only a couple weeks ago and blame me saying I didn't provide enough information....such as, I didn't tell her it was going to be a whole weekend and not just one day, when I made it very clear about rehearsal dinner, wedding day and then checking out of the hotel the day after to go home. So now our wedding party is offset, I have 3 on my side and my FH has 5, but thankfully we have made it work and I am not fretting about it anymore. Believe me it is not worth the stress, as everything will work out and look great!

Girl I can be your bridesmaid girl
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View Quoted Comment ❤️❤️awe thank you

I’m 16 days out and one of our groomsmen is still not sure if he’s able to make it. 🙄. He said he will tell us by Friday which is 14 days out from the wedding. It’s annoying but if he can’t make it oh well. We won’t change any of our plans.

Don't sweat it! Heck, I'll be a stand in as long as it's on a weekend for you!

View Quoted Comment You all are so sweet! I love this app, such amazing people on here!

Ditto on everything said. I was about to have this
Happen to me as well. (Fiancé decided to add a groomsman 🤦🏻‍♀️) so I would just embrace. All the people that care and love you will understand

I had the same thing happen to me. She had a major, life changing opportunity and I would be a terrible friend if I said no, halt your future happiness because you must be in my wedding. So I told her that I understand, I am super excited and happy for her and I asked my cousin to take her place in the bridal party. My friend even mailed me the dress so my cousin wouldn't have to buy a new one. I would say, don't stress out too much about this because weddings are stressful enough. Just take a deep breath and find someone else close to you to step up and take her place.

Too many people are under the misguided and mistaken impression that a BM is a prop and that if one drops out, that somehow means there’s now an open spot.


Sides simply do not and should not be even if it doesn’t happen to work out that way. The title is supposed to reflect your wish to honor a special relationship, there is not a job opening to fill. Frankly it is rude and would be offensive to many to be asked to “step in” as second choice.

View Quoted Comment To each their own. My cousin was delighted to be a part of our day. She did not take any offense at all. She understands that weddings are expensive and we were trying to keep the number of bridal attendants down. Overall I think the whole wedding thing is overrated but my fiancé really wanted to have one instead of eloping. If we had done it my way, I wouldn't have any bridesmates. But I appreciate and value your opinion. Hope you have a wonderful day. Namaste.

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With so many zombie threads being resurrected lately, I didn't realize at first that this thread is over a year and a half old. I wasn't aiming my comments at you.

View Quoted Comment Ah. Lol. I guess I didn't realize that it was over a year and a half ago either. 😅 It only just showed up on my feed for the first time the other day so I thought it was a new thread. Thank you for pointing it out to me. Have a great day. 😊