Drinks/ hosted? non hosted?

1) Yes drink tickets are tacky

2) To cut down on costs, offer only beer and wine and possibly a signature drink

Cut your guest list if you want to cut costs, but do not make your guests pay for alcohol at your wedding. That's like inviting them to your house and charging them for the beer in your fridge. It's rude.

You are going to get a lot of people who say OPEN BAR and that's it.

I think you need to have open SOMETHING. Some people do just beer/wine, some people do entirely open bar. To cut costs, go with beer/wine option.

But, these people are your guests and as a host you provide food and drink so you need to figure out how to do that whether by cutting costs elsewhere, finding a venue where you can do a partial open option, or a place where you can BYOB :-)

eta: clarity.

Yay Wednesday. Although I would prefer a different cluster topic, but this is fine for now.

Ha! Well I am not paying for 100 people to have all free booze so what do I do??

Ha! Well I am not paying for 100 people to have all free booze so what do I do??

No cash bar... Beer and soda or beer, wine, soda all night. It's ok for them to pay for mixed drinks/shots. Remember, you are inviting them to your event. They shouldn't have to pull out their wallet to cover drinks unless they want something other than what is offered.

If you can't afford to supply drinks- either look at a different venue that has a different bar package or cut down on the guest list.

I like the beer and wine option for sure!

^ You cut your guest list until you can afford to provide alcohol for all your guests.

But if you already made up your mind, why are you asking. Askhole warning, straight ahead

@Dana... I don't mean to be rude but that is the point! They are your guests. You pay for their food and drink. If you don't want to pay for 100, have a small wedding. That is what you do. Or have a cake and punch 1pm Sunday wedding.

Find a venue that will allow you to purchase your own alcohol or one that will allow you to pay per bottle drank. It is way too expensive to pay per person, per drink. My SIL got married years ago and did full open bar, but they only paid on the bottles that were finished and it ended up being very inexpensive in comparison. We are having just beer and wine at our wedding and purchasing it right from the distributor so going to be way less then having someone cater your alcohol. PLEASE DONT DO CASH BAR.

@Salisott is what you described NOT a cash bar? "It's ok for them to pay for mixed drinks/shots"--that means cash...they shouldn't have to pull out their wallet period...

Beer/wine only option is usually way cheaper than full bar. I agree with others, do not do cash bar. You can also try to find a venue that allows you to bring your own alcohol. I know Bevmo has like buy one get another wine for 5 cents or something and they will delivery if you purchase certain amount I think.

Just wine and beer to cut down on the cost. Also, if you are concerned about "free flowing booze' I would consider an afternoon reception rather than evening. It's rude and, frankly, ridiculous to spend your wedding worrying about how much your guests are drinking but people will naturally drink less during the day time.

@Ring- I mean to do beer/wine/soda. That covers the bases of drinks and if they want something else, then they can get that. That's standard here.

ETA- I couldn't say that people can only have beer/wine/soda. Many people up here drink old fashioneds and they will want to buy them.

Uh. I'm so tired of people on her being so anti-cash bar. We are having a cash bar, so people deal with it. We are having a cocktail hour, wine at the tables with dinner, and champagne toast. Anything beyond that is on them. My mom is paying and she made the executive decision. I don't drink and neither do half my guests so I had no opinion. FH has no opinion.

I've seen some people do beer, wine and signature drink. Some do full hosted bar all the way. It's your wedding, do what you want.

Ugh, I've noticed you give terrible advice @veronica. Stop.

@salisott, thanks!

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