Dress Code

Certain attire isn't a requirement for a wedding. You can put a suggested dress code on your wedding website. The formality level of your invitations should convey that you're having a formal wedding.

Please don't turn family and friends away from your wedding if they're outfit doesn't meet your standards.

View Quoted Comment Yes definitely difficult at times, I'll take that tip and maybe offer to go shopping with them. Thank you Morgan!

View Quoted Comment Thanks for the reply but again I'm in fashion and it want cost them much to put in the effort. I've found formal dresses from some of my favorite sites for under $20! It can be done with research. And ironically it's not the women it's the guys mainly.

View Quoted Comment I want as long as my parents, grandparents and bestfriends are there they can stay at home and save my FH and I a lot of money!

View Quoted Comment Thank you Katherine 💙

View Quoted Comment Yes and standing out like that is a no no for me because those are the main ppl that wants to take a photo with you. My mom had an all white party and my cousin showed up in RED! He was in every photo so your eyes went straight to him. 🙄 It's disgusting to disregard request. Just stay at home!

View Quoted Comment Yes I'm definitely putting a dress code/no children card in my invite. Ppl on here are calling me selfish but it's my dime and my FH and I event not there's! Respect it or stay at home 🤷🏾‍♀️

View Quoted Comment Thank you that's all I'm asking a nice pant and shirt. Amazon has great quality items. Ppl on here are talking about what they can and can't afford, I think ik my family.. If you can pay $89 for an Adidas outfit you can get a suit. You have 2 years to purchase something great. 🤷🏾‍♀️

View Quoted Comment Thank you A.N. 💙

View Quoted Comment Well poodle of course you don't know me and my family! It's definitely a fashion show and wedding! I'm a blogger and fashion is everything. I didn't say name brands, I said fashion. Style is what you make it, I can get a $20 dress off of Amazon and look fabulous as well as get a $15 button down and $20 slacks and look the part. Call me what you want but it's not about them at all. Ppl are to sensitive these days. It's like if you don't like a restaurants policy you don't have to eat there. Why complain and waste your time when you can spend your time eating somewhere else. My mom had an all white party and my cousin showed up in RED! He was in every photo so your eyes went straight to him, you couldn't even pay attention 2 The Fabulous White and gold gown my mother was wearing. That day was about her not him doing what he wanted. 🙄 It's disgusting to disregard request. Just stay at home! This day is about my FH and I having a great time while looking our best. I don't ask for much and the one thing I do ask for you can't respect. 🤷🏾‍♀️🙄 Whatever stay at home

View Quoted Comment Thank you Gen, I'm definitely going to notice when they are hopping in every photo. But thanks anyway 💙

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Sometimes I think people really are not getting what were saying!! I swear! yes, 2 years is more than enough time to put some money away for a nice outfit!! just keep on saying what you wish girl, in the end im sure they will listen!

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much! My brother is actually a graphic designer who works for a printing company so the invites would definitely be formal and I hope they don't show up in jeans. Good luck to us both lol 💙

View Quoted Comment Why don't you just tell your guests what you have told us:
"I am a blogger and my wedding is a fashion show. You are not important to us, and I don't care if you don't come. This is all about ME! You will be judged for what you wear. We will have you removed if you aren't up to my standards".
Don't beat around the bush. I promise you won't need to worry about guests after that.

You are very welcome!!!! we have to stick together! it is true, how are we selfish to ask simple things at our event? that we are paying an arm and a leg for... yes we have a vision and the things we ask are not crazy at all. If a guest is requiring a certain attire follow it, they did not say how much it has to cost or a name brand, how come in 2 years they can not get an appropriate outfit and honestly It is a shame on the person/people who do not want to honor a bride's simple request! I also see that you are having adult only... as am I and on this page and in real life I had so much backlash in my 2 year engagement but OH WELL!!! our event, our money, the vibe we want!!! you do you girl!!! I hope everything works out! how are you addressing the adult only situation?

This definitely isn't a softer way to say it, but a more succinct way of saying it would be "I don't want you at my wedding unless you change who you are because I don't think you're good enough as you are" because that is the message you are sending.

View Quoted Comment Perfect! Formal invitations should help convey the tone too.


You could also put “formal attire required” which is a bit more uh... demanding (and still open to interpretation) but you know your crowd best. 😊
I got flak for this here but for our local 50’s/60’s reception our invites said “era-appropriate attire required.” We listed a few ideas: cocktail dresses for women, suits or tuxes for men. And we listed a few optional accessories and a link to our wedding website with attire ideas. Guests loved it! Most women have a dress that world work, and guys have a suit. Our photos looked fantastic and guests got into the theme. Only 1 guest declined because she refused to wear a dress. We had a plated dinner, open bar, live band & a Frank Sinatra impersonator. Guests still talk about our reception!

View Quoted Comment I mean I really would hope more of your energy would be focused on how happy you are to be married to your husband and surrounded by your loved ones rather than noticing people’s clothing.


You can request formal attire but you can’t make people do anything. Ultimately they’ll be the ones looking silly if they’re underdressed. Try not to care so much about what other people do!

Disagreeing with you is not rude. Calling people Becky, being snippy and not realizing that there is a more tactful way of saying essentially 'my way or the I don't care' is rude. Why did you ask for advice and then refuse to listen to it? Why ARE you inviting these people even?

Wishing you nothing but the best of luck with your vision