Doubt about marriage.

If you are both constantly doubting your relationship you cannot get married. These issues won't go away after the wedding. You will only have more things to worry about as serious issues arise.

If you BOTH have doubts about marriage, you need to do some counseling ASAP. You can even do it online with a counselor that is either bilingual or that speaks a common language to BOTH of you (I assume English.)

Having people travel abroad for a wedding to witness two people get married that aren't even so sure about getting married is a waste. I'd rather be able to turn it into a vacation or something.

Don't get married because you feel obligated to your guests. Getting married is a huge and serious decision that you two must make, and truly discussing if the issue is the WEDDING vs EACH OTHER will get you a long way. And still do some counseling.

IMO if there is every any doubt then you should not be getting married... obviously neither of you are ready.

Postpone it. talk to a counselor or pastor to help you work out whether or not you both want to be married. if you have doubts now, please don't do it!

people can change travel plans. its way better to do that then to get married because of other people, then be miserable and end up divorced. this is serious, and won't get better if you don't address it now.

i called off an engagement in the past. it was terribly hard, but MUCH better than marrying the wrong person. be strong and go with your gut on this one.

When he told me he had doubts- that he wasn't sure if he wanted to live his life with someone that worries the way that I do..I wasn't even surprised. It didn't hurt at all. I think I've become totally numb to the idea of him changing his mind.

Based on your last comment, i would just walk away. he's been very clear that he isn't sold on marrying you. you deserve someone who who can't NOT marry you. life is short, move on. you'll find happiness with someone else. i'm sorry, this sucks.

If it didn't hurt when he told you he wasn't sure if he wants to marry you. leave now. its not worth dragging it out any longer. as christina said you deserve someone who can't NOT marry you.

You both need to want to get married without a doubt. It sounds like there is more going on. I think you should do some premarital counseling. If he doesn't want to, then there is your answer about how he feels about the relationship. Planning a wedding is stressful, but it sounds like it's the relationship you are doubting, not the wedding. Long story short: At LEAST postpone the wedding.

End it.

at least you're both on the same page.

If the 7 people traveling to see you get married can't cancel their flights or get their money back, it'll be a really nice vacation. Trust me, your closest friends and family want to see you HAPPY, not simply married.

And, if you think it's expensive to cancel a wedding, live through a divorce. It cost me 2x the amount of money to divorce my ex than it did to marry him and we did not have a cheap wedding. The emotional expense/toll was even worse.

Yeah, you sound like you guys are together for convenience and out of complacency. That won't make for a happy marriage at all.

Defintely postpone! You do not want to be married and then finally decide it's not for you. Obvioulsy you both realized you don't want to be married, so don't do it. Marriage isn't for everyone. Your relatives will understand, I'm sure they jus twant you happy. Maybe some counseling to see why the wedding/being married is causing so much stress when you seem to be fine if it's not being discussed.

I know it may seem so tough to turn back, but I have canceled my wedding (in the past) and I know what you're feeling to a certain degree. I didn't have the heart to cancel it until he finally said he didn't think he wanted to get married. I think I knew deep down inside I didn't want to, that it wasn't right, but I thought I'd gone too far in the planning, and that I was trying to spare his feelings. But you have to be true to yourself! It doesn't mean you have to completely break up, but maybe just say you want to work on things or figure things out.

If the issue is stress from the wedding that is the problem, then that is one thing. How were things before you were engaged? Did he drive you crazy?

But as someone who had a failed marriage once already, go with your gut. Only you know if it feels wrong in your bones!

As someone who was married to someone from a different culture before, I definitely understand what kind of misunderstandings can come up. Culture plays a huge part and it can be a great problem if one doesn't try to understand that part of them.

Now, I am not going to tell you "do this or that." You will have to figure it out for yourself. Maybe have a talk with your guy and talk about the comments he has made, if he meant them, and what would be a good route to go from here.

Sorry to say this, but it sounds like your relationship might be over.

Only you knows what you should do. Don't take advice from strangers on the internet about your relationship. You need to talk to your partner, like yesterday.

Just get married. It will all work out in the end

Talk to your partner and be unflinchingly honest. Please don't just get married and hope it all goes away...that's a horrible suggestion. I would tell you that if it doesn't matter to your heart when he says he doesn't think he wants to marry you....then you already have your answer.

Weddings can be stressful and expensive so there will be some fights. But if you are both really unsure then just postpone the wedding for now. See how things go in your relationship. Better to not get married right away and figure things out instead of getting married and being miserable

If you have doubts, see a counselor. Even in our fights, FH never tells me he doesn't want to marry me.

Divorces are expensive. Just sayin'.